Do you ever wonder why some relationships fall apart? Here are 18 relationship turn offs that push couples away from each other unless it’s fixed soon!
You may think you’re in a truly happy relationship, but do you ever get disappointed by your partner’s behavior now and then?
Sometimes, even the most loving partner may subconsciously behave in a
certain way or say a few things that can hurt their lover.
If it’s just a rare occurrence, you could overlook it.
But what if it’s something you notice all the time?
Relationship don’t always fall apart because lovers cheat on each other or argue until one of them packs their bags and leaves.
The truth is, couples almost always fall apart because of disappointments and resentments.
Relationship turn offs that can hurt romance
Every time you put up with something that hurts you, you’re only digging a hole in your relationship.
Remember, if your partner truly loves you, they may not want to hurt you intentionally.
Sometimes, a few of the hurtful things they do may be subconscious and something they don’t realize themselves.
You don’t need to always confront your partner about it, or sulk and
yell at them. At times, all they need is a little nudge to realize their
mistakes, so they can correct it themselves.
18 relationship turn offs that can ruin your romance
Here are 18 relationship turn offs that you need to keep an eye on.
If you’re indulging in any of these turn offs *even if it’s only
subconsciously*, it probably means you need to do some soul searching
and ask yourself if you truly respect and love your partner.
And on the other hand, if you see these signs in your partner, rather
than just put up with it, talk to them about it and tell them how you
feel about this kind of behavior.
After all, your silence won’t help your partner realize that their
subtle behavior is pushing both of you apart, just a little with each
passing day.
#1 Insecurity and jealousy. Does your partner make you feel
insecure by giving someone else more attention or by flirting with them
outrageously while you stand next to them shuffling your foot in painful
embarrassment? Insecurity and jealousy is one of the biggest reasons
for egos and anger to creep into the relationship.
#2 Bad mouthing. Insulting a partner’s parents or their family
is so common that almost all couples indulge in a bit of accusation and
bad mouthing now and then. But there’s a difference between pointing
out a person’s flaw and blatantly insulting them for it, don’t you
think?
#3 Boundary issues. Do you give your partner the space they
want, whether they ask for it or not? Not understanding where to give
space in a relationship is a big relationship turn off. Don’t constantly
try to make yourself feel involved in your partner’s life even when
they want to do something by themselves.
#4 Withholding sex. This is something partners use when
they’re angry or upset. They pretend like everything’s okay, and yet,
they push their partner away or avoid having sex. If you’re indulging in
something like this, you may believe you have a right to avoid sex if
you don’t feel like having it.
But really, are you avoiding sex because you don’t feel like having
sex or is it because you’re upset? And if you’re upset, isn’t it so much
better to just tell your partner what’s on your mind instead of using
sex as a tool to hurt them?
#5 Compromises. You don’t like compromising for your partner,
or even if you do compromise for them, you do so with a disgruntled
expression stuck on your face. And yet, you expect your partner to
always compromise for your sake no matter what you ask of them.
#6 The third opinion. Do you really take your partner’s
advice, or do you just ignore it and place more value on a third
person’s opinions? If you give more importance to someone else’s opinion
and care less about your own lover’s opinions, even if it’s a decision
that directly impacts your relationship, it only shows that you don’t
respect your partner and think less of them.
#7 Bad listeners. Do you listen to your partner while talking
to them, or are you only focused on getting your point across? Do you
constantly say “what did you say?” to your partner each time they’re
trying to say something to you? Bad listening habits in a relationship
will definitely infuriate your partner or make them feel neglected. And
some day, this turn off will push both of you away from each other.
#8 Cruel ego boosts. Have you ever complimented someone else
in public in front of your partner, while completely ignoring to
compliment your own partner for doing the same thing? Putting your
partner down and hurting them subtly in public can give you an ego
boost, but it’ll also cost you your relationship over time.
#9 Silent treatment. Don’t ignore your partner or give them
the silent treatment by not talking to them just because they say
something hurtful in a conversation. It’ll make your partner hate you
for walking away from the conversation, and they’ll stop being truthful
to you or trying to communicate with you because they know you don’t
like hearing the truth.
#10 Pushy behavior. Don’t constantly force your partner to do
things your way because you think your way is the only way to do
something. It may seem like a petty issue, but your constant pushiness
may force your partner to turn rebellious and do things just to oppose
you and hurt you, so they can get their independence back from you.
#11 You think you’re too good. This is something you need to
ask yourself, because no one else can answer this for you. Do you always
take your partner’s opinions into consideration each time you need to
take decisions? Or do you secretly believe *somewhere in the back of
your mind* that you’re awesome and your partner is just too dumb to
offer any insightful advice to you?
No one but you may know this answer, but if you think your partner
isn’t smart, your condescending behavior towards them may give away the
disdain you have for them.
#12 Cutting conversations. Do you ever cut your partner across
when they’re trying to make a point? Or if your partner is trying to
explain something to you at a store, and someone else *like a pushy
store salesman* interferes to explain the same thing to you, do you look
away from your partner and continue the conversation with this new
person who interrupted the both of you? It’s a clear sign that you
subconsciously don’t value your partner or think they have anything
important to say.
#13 Anger issues. One of the biggest relationship turn offs is
when you direct all your rage and anger at your partner, even when they
do nothing wrong. You may be pissed off with the world, but you still
direct all that anger towards your partner and treat them like a
punching bag because you don’t have the nerve to confront the world or
direct the anger at the people who actually hurt you.
#14 Big sacrifices. Do you behave like making time for your
partner is such a big sacrifice? When your partner asks you to spend
some time with them, do you get annoyed or behave like sparing time for
your loved ones is a luxury you can’t afford? Careful here, because your
partner may not be around for too long if you treat them so
disrespectfully!
#15 Letting yourself go. So you’ve hooked yourself a sexy fish
and you have that ring on your finger. You’re all happy and life is
bliss. But now that you’re in a stable relationship, have you let
yourself go and piled on several pounds, or have you started dressing
down and leaving it all unshaved and unkempt?
Don’t take your partner for granted and expect them to always stay
crazily in love with you and lust for you when you don’t make the effort
to look and feel your best for them.
#16 Selfishness. Selfishness is a relationship turn off that’s
one of the worst traits in a partner. Do you always look for the better
deal or an advantage in your relationship? It could be as small at
eyeing the larger slice of pizza, or as big as hoarding all the money in
your own bank account while emptying your partner’s account dry. But
this behavior of yours would definitely make your partner see through
your intentions and distrust you very soon.
#17 Manipulative and controlling behavior. For a person who is
unable to directly confront their partner over an issue, it’s always
easier to resort to emotional manipulation and subtle controlling
behavior. You may think it’s the easiest way to control your partner,
but once they realize just how deviously you’ve manipulated them to lose
their own self, they’ll leave you and never look back even if you beg
them to take you back.
#18 Taking kindness for granted. In love, both partners are
expected to love each other unconditionally and be completely giving
towards each other. But if you hold yourself back and take your
partner’s kindness and love for granted, you’d be hurting them each time
you use them to get what you want.
And soon, you partner may start getting wary and they too may stop
loving you unconditionally. And eventually, all there would be in the
relationship are two people who don’t trust each other, and are
constantly competing to get the better deal. Is that even love anymore?
These 18 relationship turn offs could seem trivial now, but if
you’re indulging in any of these turn offs, you may find yourself a
perfect partner, but you’ll always find yourself in unhappy
relationships, until you truly decide to change yourself for the better.
