Friday, September 30, 2016

7 Signs You are Scaring Off a Girl on the First Date !!

7 Signs You are Scaring Off a Girl on the First Date,asian bad realtionship couple broken hearted

When you are out on a first date, it means you have an opportunity to create a beautiful story out of it. The first date means you have been given a chance. However, at times, guys mess up the first date. When the girl starts ignoring them subsequently, they wonder what went wrong. A conscious effort, on the other hand, can help them avoid a potential disaster and pave way for building a relationship. Observing the girl is a good way to start, as there will be signs to identify whether she is comfortable or she isn’t.

1. She looks around restlessly
If the girl isn’t interested in you and is looking around restlessly, it is an important sign to let you know she isn’t comfortable. In most cases, it could just be an indicator that she wishes she were somewhere else. You should be smart enough to make the girl comfortable on her first date by making her talk more about herself than going on with lengthy monologs about your own life and experiences.
2. She starts talking about how busy her schedule is
This is definitely not about how important or busy she is. If she has made time to come out on the date, she can handle her schedule. Her constant rambling about how many things she has to manage are just ground work for leaving early. In other words, you are scaring her off and making her leave early, by doing whatever you are doing on the first date.
3. She constantly checks her phone
This is too obvious a sign for guys to understand. In your first date, all your attention should be directed towards her, and all her attention should be on what you say. If she is fidgeting with her phone, checking the time and constantly replying to messages, it is a sign that she is either bored or turned off.
4. She veils information
If you are on a first date, chances are you would be asking each other about work, office, home and other such details that have a slightly personal note to them. If she isn’t giving away information freely, veiling even bits like where she works or where she lives, it means she isn’t fully confident of your intentions. This should let you know, she isn’t comfortable enough telling you confidential things about her life that a stranger shouldn’t know.

5. She doesn’t commit about subsequent meetings
If you have scared off the girl on the first date, this will definitely happen. Invariably, couples depart after the first date with promises of meeting up again soon. However, if you suggest days and the girl keeps coming up with excuses as to why she wouldn’t be free on that day, it means she isn’t too keen to commit. You can trust a girl to speak her mind if she actually enjoyed the date. In some cases, she might even come forward herself and suggest meeting up again. If that hasn’t happened, it is time to wonder what you have done wrong to scare off the girl.
6. She isn’t listening
It isn’t tough to judge if the other person is genuinely interested in what you say. In your first date, it shouldn’t come to a point where one of you is constantly talking and the other is constantly listening. Also, if she isn’t really involved in the conversation, doesn’t ask you much and mostly nods, it means she isn’t listening. It could only mean she is waiting for the date to end, so she could go home. There are some girls who are shy, but shy girls are different from uninterested girls and you can get a hang of which side she belongs to if you observe her long enough. If the girl isn’t interested in knowing more about you, it means you have turned her off or you have spoken way too much already for her to digest. This doesn’t do your prospects any good, especially on a first date.
7. She isn’t ordering for much
If you are out on a dinner date, a big order invariably means a longer waiting period. But if your girl isn’t ordering much, it could mean she wouldn’t reveal her appetite or she is keen on leaving early. Girls will always show when they are turned off, especially on a first date. If they set a short deadline to leave, especially within a few minutes of arriving, it means you haven’t made them comfortable enough to spend a longer evening with you.
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10 Useful Tips to Improve Your Relationship

10 Useful Tips to Improve Your Relationship,man woman date romantic romance love couple

Being in a successful relationship requires a lot of effort and constant nurturing. We give you some of the ways in which you can improve the way things currently are with your loved one.

1. Listen intently
It is very important in any relationship to have a meaningful conversation and listening forms a vital aspect of interacting with someone. Your girlfriend might drop little hints here and there about what is important to her and you may miss out on them if you are not listening closely. It would also help if you make a note of the non-verbal gestures while your partner is talking to you.

2. Put yourself in her shoes
Before you get angry at her for something or start judging her, ask yourself, “What would I have done if I was in the same situation?” or try to understand why she did what she did. If you simply try to see things from her perspective, it would reduce your arguments and fights to a large extent.

3. Give her more reasons to smile
They say laughter is the best medicine. As long as you are able to make each other laugh, your relationship will manage to survive. Try to see the silver lining in the worst of situations. Also, see the good in her and make her feel good about herself. Genuine appreciation and compliments will surely go a long way.

4. Be vocal about your love
There comes a point in a relationship when it becomes important to say things that are in your heart. It is not always enough that you care for someone deeply. Sometimes, you need to show it and you need to say it. Words have a lot of power and many a times saying those three little words can make or break a relationship.

5. Have faith in the relationship
Know that no relationship in the world is devoid of contradictions and hardships. You will have ups and downs in the relationship but it is very important to never lose hope. Make sure you always have faith in each other and in the strength of your relationship. This will help you both sail through troubled times.

6. Forgive and forget
Learn to let go. Holding on to yours and your partner’s past mistakes will only make things worse. Try not to bring in past issues every time you have a fight. Forgive each other and try to forget about the grudges and the past pain. Cutting yourself away from the past will be your first step at building a wonderful future with your loved one.

7. Stop comparing
If you continuously keep comparing your girlfriend or your relationship with others, then it will weaken your bond. Remember that the grass only seems greener on the other side. No relationship is perfect and it is not fair to compare what you have with what others have.

8. Give each other space
Being in love does not always mean being together all the time. Sometimes giving each other a break can be a good idea. Neither of you should feel suffocated in the relationship. Let her have a night out with her friends while you hang out with your buddies. This will not only give you both some space but will also give you a chance to miss each other.

9. Try to accept her the way she is
This is easier said than done but it is important that you do not try to constantly change the way your loved one is. Try to understand that she has her own individual personality and you should learn to embrace her with all her flaws. You may give her your opinion on some action of hers if it bothers you but do not try to impose your thoughts and ideas on her.

10. Do something new together
It will give your relationship a refreshing boost if you two try experiencing or learning something new together. It could be something as simple as taking salsa lessons or going for some adventure sport. This will rekindle the spark and bring you both closer to each other.
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8 Reasons to be Financially Stable Before Getting Hitched

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Taking that decision to marry someone could potentially be the most important decision of your life. When you want someone to be your life partner, you need to be sure that you can give her the kind of life that she deserves. Now we know that money can’t buy everything but unless you are financially stable, you may end up feeling that you are falling short of her expectations. We give you some of the reasons why being financially secure is essential before you pop the question.
1. Gives you confidence
When you know that you are financially secure, it adds a lot of confidence to your attitude. It affects your overall personality and makes it easier for you to pop the question. You are bound to think twice before asking a girl to marry you if you cannot afford the ring or the wedding ceremony.
2. You can maintain a certain lifestyle
If you feel that you have financial stability then you will be able to maintain a certain lifestyle after marriage. You will know what you can afford and what you cannot and this would also mean that you and your spouse would have to make fewer compromises in life. That is not going to be possible if you live from paycheck to paycheck.
3. It shows that you are responsible
Being financial secure before you get hitched lets the girl’s parents and her friends know that you are a responsible guy who has a plan in life. It shows that you are prepared to take the responsibility of your spouse and are ready to try and give her the kind of life that she wants.
4. It is a sign of maturity
The way you manage your money is reflective of your priorities is life and how mature you are as an individual. If you are reckless about your money and do not care where and how you spend it, then it is a sign that you are probably not ready to have another person be a part of your life. Marriage is a life-long commitment and having financial stability before marriage is a sign of maturity.

5. You can set goals after marriage

It is only if you are financially secure before you get hitched that you can make some goals after you get married. If you are aware of where you stand in terms of your finances, you can make plans for the future and accordingly form a strategy.
6. Money becomes one less thing to worry about
Marriage comes with its own set of added responsibilities, a fresh perspective on life, and several new experiences. For most people it is not very easy initially to get settled in the new way of life. If you are financially stable, then you will have the confidence of knowing that money at least will not be a problem. It becomes one less thing to worry about. 

7. Financial instability can weaken the marriage
There have been many couples who have put an end to their marriage owing to financial woes. Money can become a big reason for having frequent arguments and fights. In order to avoid that, you must make sure that you are financially stable before you get married.
8. You will stay out of debt
If you are already not sure where your next paycheck is coming from then you are bound to be under a lot of debt after you get married. Being in constant debt can be a reason for mental and emotional stress. You will always be giving away a major chunk of your salary to get rid of your debts
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Friday, September 23, 2016

6 Signs Your Work Life is Improving Your Relationship

6 Signs Your Work Life is Improving Your Relationship,man woman date dinner business dating

Couples may fight because their careers do not allow them to spend enough time with each other. But did you know that you could be in a reverse situation where your relationship is actually benefiting from your work life? Here a few signs that is happening to you.

1. Your girlfriend waits to meet you everyday
If you and your girlfriend work at different places and have different timings to follow, it may become very difficult for you to spend much time together. But if this is making your girlfriend look forward to meet you every time you have a date, then it means that your work life is positively impacting your relationship.

2. Your girlfriend competes with you in a healthy way
A healthy amount of competition could be brought into your relationship if you and your girlfriend have similar qualifications and background but work at different places. If you both nurture a feeling of outshining each other or proving your worth to each other, it means that your careers are working well for your personal life. This may also keep your relationship from becoming stagnant.

3. Your girlfriend becomes slightly possessive of you
When your girlfriend comes to know about your female coworkers and how much you have to interact with them for professional reasons, she is likely to feel a pang of jealousy. If she makes sure that she never gives you a chance to complain and is on her best behavior to have your attention over any other female, you could be benefiting from your job situation.

4. You have more things to talk about with your girlfriend
When you are working, you are likely to meet different people and be exposed to different challenges. This will make your life interesting and always give you something to look forward to. You will have a lot to talk about with your girlfriend instead of just exchanging sweet nothings all the time. This will also give your girlfriend an idea about the different facets of your personality.

5. You and your girlfriend make more friends
If your social circle has increased because of your job and your girlfriend is a part of it too, it is a sign that your work life is improving your relationship. When you and your girlfriend hang out with your workmates, party with them and make good friends out of them, you will naturally keep your social life interesting and find more like-minded people.

6. Distance creates more passion in your relationship
Does your job make you travel a lot? Are you unable to meet your girlfriend for extended periods of time because you are too busy? If you see increased passion from your girlfriend because of the distance your job creates between you two, it means that your job is, in a way, advantageous to your relationship. Distance can wreck a relationship too but if creates more love, then it is good for you both.
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