Great! Now you have a fine lady in your life. But have you started going green with jealousy whenever you find her talking to other men? Beware of the ‘green-eyed monster’ as he might play spoilsport, eventually tearing up even the most treasured relationships. Nip it right in the bud and do not let pangs of jealousy get the better of you. The sooner you tackle the monster, the better!
1. Get to the root of the problem
You need to get to the real roots of the problem. You should ask yourself what exactly make you jealous? That your last girlfriend cheated on you is no reason for this one to follow suit. You must also crosscheck whether you are just being pessimistic or have you started feeling insecure? Sometimes, it might be the fear of losing her that is making you suspicious of every single move she makes. Whatever may be the reason, you must be clear about it in your mind.
2. Talk to people who know her really well
It is always good to talk to those people who have known her for a longer period than you. Such a candid and sincere talk with the right person is sure to be reassuring. Also try going out with her and get firsthand knowledge of how she spends time with her friends when you are not around. This will be helpful in preventing your imagination from scuttling off.
3. Get to know her better
With every passing day, you get to know each other better and once you establish a stable relationship, the pangs of jealousy will naturally subside and you will start feeling more secure. Although it is quite natural for you to feel protective about your Lady Love, it is also important that you should trust her. May be she is a talkative person by nature and it is nothing but harmless chatting or may be it is just that she is being polite by listening to what others have to say. Do not jump the gun and never ever pick a fight as your concerns may all be overblown.
4. Work on trust
So maybe it’s the starting stages of your relationship and you haven’t reached the committed phase yet. What you do know is that you are crazy about her and she wants to be with you. You have to now build up that trust. Don’t worry too much about those silly guys who hit on her or obsess about who might be interested just because she is attractive. As you get to know each other, you will begin to believe in what you have. Let that believing do the work. It will pave a happy path for your Lady Love and you.
5. Seek therapy
Sometimes jealousy really can be a monster. It can drive you crazy and make you do things you wouldn’t normally do. Don’t let jealousy ruin your relationship with your woman. If you feel that you are indulging in jealous behavior, even though there is no real threat to your relationship, then it’s time to call in the professionals. Meet with a therapist and seek therapy to help you deal with your problem. If you want to share a fruitful and happy life with your Lady Love, don’t let anything stand in your way.