When searching for love and romance, many men just want to find a steady relationship. Sometimes a man will settle on the first girl he dates without realizing he doesn't have to just settle, but he can find the girl of his dreams. He must first get comfortable with being alone. When he is secure with himself and understands just what he wants in a relationship, better things will come his way. There are some real perks to being single. People get so wrapped up thinking they need another person to define their happiness. There are perks to being single and perks to being in a relationship.
When you are single...
-You don't have to answer to anyone. You can do whatever you want, when you want to do it, without asking permission or feeling guilty. So if a friend of yours calls you and asks you if you want to hang out, then the decision is entirely yours. Go hang out if that's what you want to do. When you are tired and want to sleep, there is no one who might get upset that you want to be alone. If you want to let the dishes go for tonight, no problem.
-You get to pick what you are going to watch on the television or what movie you want to see. No more sitting through some movie or show just to please your partner. You are in control of the remote.
-No in-laws to deal with. Most of the drama in your partner's life comes from the in-laws. No more drama.
-If you are ambitious, you can focus on your career. You can work long hours if you please. You don't have to worry about balancing your time. You can work hard and play hard.
-You don't have to be responsible for anyone else's feeling. You can talk to others and not be judged later for some innocent remark you may have made. You don't have to worry about being indifferent, uncaring or cold. There will be no one to judge you. Rinse and repeat.
Once you realize how good being alone can be, you will be more relaxed when dating or even going out alone. You won't come off as desperate, but as someone who is happy and extremely self-confident. You won't need to know how to find love and romance, it will find you.