Love and marriages start in heaven, but as the months go by, sweet girls and chivalrous men become nagging wives and nagging husbands. But most people don’t know they’re a nag themselves. Are you an unintentional nag? Find out.
Click here to read the introduction of this article about the real meaning of nagging.
Who is a nag? How do happy husbands and sweet wives become nagging husbands and nagging wives?
Not many partners realize that they actually nag without even realizing it.
Becoming nagging wives and nagging husbands
Beware of your ignorance, which in this particular situation might
not always be bliss. To you, it might seem like you are just reminding
your partner who always ends up forgetting things.
But think about it. Would you actually call yourself a nagging wife
or husband? The definition of a nag thus lies with the person who is at
the receiving end.
Not that name-calling is being advocated. Far from it. But a reminder
borders on nagging when the partner under verbal attack is affronted.
Why will nagging not work?
Nagging can lead to a vicious self-defeating cycle. Though your
reasons may be valid and repeated, your spouse still seems not to have
heard. But going on and on about it is not going to help. This is a
truism validated by experts. It will make your spouse resentful and
defensive and remove himself/herself from you, physically and
emotionally.
Nagging puts you in one place (superior or otherwise) and your
partner in another (defensive or otherwise) and this is detrimental to a
relationship, serving only to distance you both.
Further, nagging prompts a gamut of negative and destructive emotions
like disapproval, condemnation, censure, anger, irritation, physical
and emotional agitation in both partners.
Nagging issues and partners
Take for instance, a nagging issue between the two of you. Let’s say
you want your partner to do something that does not come naturally to
them, say like kissing goodbye before you part ways for the day. So you
go on about it about till they comply and remember to kiss you
dutifully, but can you feel the love?
Sure you’ve nagged your partner to physically do what you want,
either out of sheer exhaustion or cowardice. But is this really what you
want? How much more enriching would it be if it came to you from the
heart. And for that, you should be able to command your partner’s
emotions.
Understanding nagging and little signs of love
Scrutinize your relationship, is it enriching or demoralizing? A
successful symbiotic relationship is based on love. Love does not mean
roses and sexual chemistry, but involves a whole lot of (spontaneous or
thought out) understanding and caring acts toward your partner.
These little acts go a long way in building your relationship and
making it not only last, but also to make life enriching, satisfying and
exciting.
On the other hand, a relationship dogged by unresolved issues can be
tremendously taxing. While money management is the principal hurdle that
most relationships fail to vault over smoothly, nagging, its causes and
consequences, comes a close second. Indeed, while love can conquer all,
relentless nagging can wear down even the most strongest of emotions.
Intimacy can and will, without doubt, take a severe beating if you don’t
stop nagging.
So try not to be a nagging wife or a nagging husband,
instead, let love take its course into a better life. Speak your heart
out and let your partner know how you feel instead of whining and
becoming a nag. Click here to find out how to stop nagging your partner.
