Long distance relationships are one of the trickiest relationships in the world of dating and love. It can be a breeze, or it can be the worst. Find out how to make a long distance relationship work in your favor.
Have you ever experienced the freedom and the annoyance of a long distance relationship?
It’s just not easy, and it needs a lot of effort.
But at times, it’s also inevitable. We can’t always stay together and
at times, love has to be separated, even if only for a while.
If you’re facing a prospective long distance relationship and are
wondering how to handle it or even get through it, here’s everything you
need to know.
How to make a long distance relationship work
Firstly, have a frank discussion with your sweetheart. What do you guys want to do about it?
Do you want to put your relationship on hold until you’re both within
the same pin code or do you want to take a chance with long distance
dating?
Remember, you won’t really have a perfect relationship when you’re hundreds or thousands of miles away from each other.
So if you really do think that both of you are perfect for each other, give it a go.
But if you’re not really convinced by long distance love or the dearth of sexual intimacy, let your point be known.
But all said and done, if true love wins and both of you are here for
the long haul, use these tips on holding a long distance relationship
together even when you’re both miles apart and you’ll be able to make it
work.
Talk often, more than you ever have
Both of you can’t really meet every evening or even every week
anymore. So there’s just no communication and small talk. And every
great relationship needs that. Spend more time talking to each other and
keep each other in the loop about your lives. Unless either of you get
annoyed with regular calls, speak often with each other. And don’t skip
out all those little intimate details like what you had for dinner, what
color is your underwear and which side of your bed you’re facing.
After all, if you can’t take a peek into each other’s lives, the next
best thing to keep love alive is to hear about every intimate detail.
Get some face to face time
While emotional intimacy is paramount for a successful relationship, a
bit of face time can do wonders too. Get on the webcam, drop a few love
notes off occasionally for each other, send pictures of each other
doing crazy things (just not nude crazy things), and make a point to get
on skype and take a good look at each other at least a few times a
week. An occasional peek of privates when you’re sure no one’s around
can help too!
Meet as frequently as possible
It may be hard to meet often if you’re on an expedition in the Amazon
or living a thousand miles away, but no matter what the distance, try
to schedule a prospective date to meet. And try to meet as often as you
both can.
When you fix a date for the next meeting, it’ll keep the excitement
alive even if the meeting is several months away. And as long as both of
you take an initiative to meet up, both of you will feel good about it.
Don’t be jealous
If you want to make a long distance relationship work, hammer this
into your head. Somehow, most lovers have the most trouble handling this
little thing called jealousy.
Let’s face it, you know your partner is hot stuff. And you can’t
really do anything if someone else is hitting on them, or if you hear a
few rumors that your mate’s dating someone else or if you read a “last
night was fun!” message on your lover’s facebook wall.
Stop yourself from getting jealous, this is your sweetheart we’re
talking about. This person is all yours and no one else’s. It’s easy to
get worked up over nothing, so take it easy and wait for your partner to
tell you all about it and have a laugh!
Learn to trust your partner and help your partner trust you
Long distance relationships can be more painful than fun if your
partner’s someone who’s always attracted a lot of attention. But the one
thing that matters here is the big question, do you trust your partner?
On the other hand, help your partner trust you and believe you.
Always be frank and talk about every little incident so your partner
never feels like they’re left out of the loop. And don’t call your
partner when you’ve got giggling or noisy friends over. If there’s a
weird message on your facebook wall, reply it in a manner that can clear
the air for your long distance lover.
Always give your lover enough time over phone or skype and make them
feel special and cared for. Losing trust in the relationship is one of
the biggest reasons why lovers break up in a long distance relationship.
And almost always, it’s usually a misunderstanding that triggers the
lack of trust. So tread carefully on this one.
You can’t always be there for your partner emotionally
As helpless as you may seem, you need to get this into your head. You
can’t always be there for your lover. When your partner does feel low
or is having a bad day, all you can do is talk about it and ask your
sweetheart to go out with a few friends and have some fun. Do just that.
But don’t get annoyed or pissed off that your partner’s out with
their friends and god-knows-who-else. It’s a part of long distance
relationship and loving from far away. You can’t help your lover or be
there for them all the time. You’re two lovers who love each other but
can’t be there physically for each other, at least for a while. Either
of you should understand that, or one of you may end up disconnecting
emotionally because the other person is of no help.
Your partner will make new friends *some attractive ones too*
Okay, so deal with it. You aren’t around to show the world that you
own your lover, so there really isn’t anything you can do about it other
than trust your partner. You have to understand that both of you are
leading separate lives, and both of you are going to meet new friends.
And at times, a new friend may be attractive, and at other times, a new
friend may have a crush on your lover.
But all these things are natural, and you should learn to take them
in your stride. You may be in a long distance relationship, but your
partner does love you and only you. Learn to trust your partner even if
you’re having doubts about it. Making friends and meeting new people is
natural and inevitable. And your lover is not going to have an affair
with every new person they meet, so learn to calm your little heart.
Reassure each other of your love
Every now and then, reassure your partner and promise to stay loyal.
You never know when your partner’s feeling insecure or anxious. By
reminding your lover just how much you love them and how good it feels
to talk to them, you’ll reassure your lover and help them cope with the
long distance relationship. And learn to expect the same reassurance
from your partner too.
Get naughty when you can
Love getting on skype or over the phone with your lover late at
night? Well, turn up the heat now and then. One of the biggest pains of a
long distance relationship is the lack of sexual intimacy. So work on
that when both of you have the time. Have a few naughty conversations or
work a pole. Do whatever turns each of you on and bring that sexual
intimacy back into your long distance love. And if it’s safe, send a few
of your clothes over too. Your partner will miss you more, want you
more, and will love you more!
Learn to forgive and forget
You’ve heard this before and there’s a chance that you’ll hear it
again. Shit happens. Separated lovers can feel rather lonely at times,
and with temptation all around it’s easy to stray even if you don’t want
to. Mistakes do happen, and it can be completely circumstantial. If
your relationship ever experiences a painful mistake, learn to get over
it. Sometimes, it’s not anyone’s fault unless one of you intentionally
cheated on the other.
Value your relationship and avoid temptations. Always remember that a
mistake can feel good while it lasts, but it’ll never feel good once
you’ve snapped out of it. And it may end your relationship or haunt both
of you forever. If you do want to know how to make a long distance
relationship work, learn to resist temptation and learn to forgive and
forget. It’s one of the banes of a long distance relationship.
Experiencing a long distance relationship isn’t easy. But
once you’re back together in each other’s arms, you’ll realize how much
both of you mean to each other, to survive the test of time and distance
amidst all the temptation.
