You may have to come face to face with the prospect of long distance love at some point in your relationship. Can a long distance love survive the distance or is it easier to call it quits?
If you ever have to take a decision on long distance love, are you willing to give it a chance?
Managing a long distance romance isn’t easy at all. And as much as
you may want to hold on, sometimes it’s easier and less painful to let
go.
If you and your lover have to stay separated for just a few months or even a year, it may be easy to hold on.
But if your lover has to relocate to a new state for an unknown
period and there’s no way you can move too, well, you do have a few
things to consider before making up your mind.
Things to know about long distance love
Long distance love can seem cute in the movies, and while a few
lovers may find it easier to handle the distance, many fail miserably
and end up hating each other.
So unless you’re really ready for some difficult and faraway loving
and willing to give your relationship the test of time, put the
relationship on hold and move on, at least until both of you can meet
again.
Here are a few things you need to keep in mind while deciding on long distance love.
Are you ready for it? You’ll have your answer in a few minutes.
Relationships need a lot of effort
Most lovers take love and relationships for granted. But in reality,
relationships do need commitment and a bit of work. Most of the time,
chemistry in love and understanding makes things in love seem easier and
happier.
But if you’re not having a great relationship that’s overflowing with
love already, you may have to reconsider your decision on long distance
love.
When you’re away from each other, it’s easier to have
misunderstandings over the simplest of things like a phone call,
scheduled visits or even a rumor. And the worst part is that either of
you can’t do much to ease the tension because both of you are so far
away. Take a chance on long distance love only if both of you are
compatible, understanding and have the will to take this big a step.
Can you handle the freedom and the loneliness?
This is a big one in long distance love. When both of you live within
the same area code, it’s easy to be with each other all the time. You
get to watch new movies together, go out for dinners and party as a
couple all night long.
And when one of you have to move away, either of you are going to
have a difficult time idling time away on weekends. Even a few minutes
in bored loneliness can feel like a lifetime. You can spend time with
your friends, but it’s just not the same as being with someone you can
flirt with or cuddle with.
While the new freedom of partial singledom can be exciting,
especially when you have a lot of time to spend with new friends and
meet new people, the loneliness can lead you to look for easy ways to
bring back the excitement into your single life.
Can you trust your partner?
Learning to trust each other in a relationship is crucial in keeping
long distance love alive. But do you really trust your attractive and
outgoing partner? You know how easy is it to have a great time with
someone else when you’re out with a ‘new friend’. Could your partner be
up to something? Or could your partner lose interest in the relationship
when they’re having so much fun hanging out with new friends?
The bottom line here is to ask yourself if you can completely trust
your partner. If either of you can’t trust each other, perhaps long
distance love isn’t for you.
It’s easy to get frustrated
Remember how easy it is to get upset with each other even during
regular days? Long distance between each other can make it even worse.
First of all, there’s the fear and insecurity. Secondly, even the
smallest of things like not answering the phone, going out more often or
partying with new friends can lead to frustrations and confusion.
And the biggest bummer in long distance love, attractive new friends.
It’s extremely easy for one partner to get jealous or angry when the
other partner gets friendly with a few new attractive people. When new,
mysterious friends start posting regular comments on facebook or start
interrupting phone calls, it’s all the more reason to lose your cool.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder
Akon’s song ‘Lonely’ sucks, but it’s going to suck a lot more when
you’re all alone and listening to it, knowing that your partner’s gone
away for a long time.
The absence of your lover can make both of you miss each other a lot
more, and even help both of you realize how much love means to both of
you. As long as both of you take the effort to keep love alive, it’ll
lead to a stronger and more fulfilled relationship when both of you get
together again. Long distance love can actually be the biggest
relationship test that can help both of you understand how much either
of you mean to each other.
Absence makes you hornier too
When you’re in a perfectly happy relationship with an attractive
person, it’s easy to feel sexually exhilarated. You have great sex, add
in a bit of cuddles and kisses, and life’s just perfect.
But when you’re experiencing long distance love, you’re all alone and
you’re obviously going to feel the loneliness in your loins pretty
soon. It’s just inevitable. Can you put those lusty thoughts aside and
wait until you hold your partner in your hands again?
It’s so easy to cheat and not get caught
Your partner isn’t around anymore. Your friends have their own lives
going on. No one really cares what you’re up to late at night. Have you
met someone who’s attracted to you or is charmed by you? What are you
going to do about it?
When you’re experiencing a long distance romance, it’s really easy
for either partner to cheat and get away with it without even leaving a
trace behind. Do you trust your partner and yourself to avoid that
temptation? The fact that either of you will never get caught makes it
so much easier. But you have to learn to leave temptations behind and
walk away.
One stolen kiss will lead to another and eventually, it’ll just
create a serial cheater out of you or your partner. If either of you
think you can’t handle long distance love for lusty reasons, end it
instead of cheating a partner and losing your conscience.
You may grow apart
As humans, all of us grow and change into better and newer
individuals all the time. When you’re living together or even just
dating, you may not notice these differences because both of you learn
to evolve together. But when you’re in a long distance relationship,
it’s easier to grow apart because both of you are pursuing your own
dreams and leading your own lives.
Love needs communication to grow. Unless both of you put in the
effort to communicate each other’s feelings and talk about goals and
aspirations, you’d start to see that both of you are moving away in
different directions. And at times, both of you may end up becoming
incompatible partners even if both of you were deeply in love with each
other.
Long distance love may be a great test to measure the strength in the
relationship, but it’s riddled with temptations, jealousy and
frustrations that can create havoc in even the perfect of relationships.
Still think long distance love is worth the effort? Well, it’s about time you make up your mind.
So are you ready for a bit of long distance love? If you’re
willing to take a chance on true love and want to try and survive a long
distance romance, read how to make a long distance relationship work to solve your problems.
