If yours has been labeled a
complicated relationship for different reasons, you can still find
success in it. Allow these 10 tips to guide you.
Some people are doomed to remain in a relationship categorized as
“complicated” for as long as they live. They just don’t have these
useful tips on how to find success in a complicated relationship.
There are so many reasons people find complications within their
relationship. There can be commitment issues, trust issues, long
distance, and even abuse issues. They just don’t know how to figure out
their problems and find success in the relationship.
Why we stay in complicated relationships when we should just get out
A lot of people might say if you’re in a troubled relationship you
should just get out. It’s obviously not worth it. Now, sometimes they
may have a point, if it’s reached a critical point. But why is it we
just can’t stay away sometimes?
Your love is blinding, that’s why. Sometimes you care so much for a
person you don’t realize that maybe they don’t deserve your love. We
might even stay because although things are rough now, we believe with
the right help, it can be a happy and healthy relationship.
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How to handle a complicated relationship and find success
Not all complicated relationships are doomed to failure. You can be
in a less than great spot in the relationship and emerge just as happy
and successful as the most “perfect” couple you can think of.
You may just need a little help to get there. Truthfully, complicated
relationships always have some issue that needs working out. If you’re
in a complicated relationship and want to make it a successful and happy
one, here’s how you do it.
#1 Isolate the issue(s). Your very first step when
handling a complicated relationship to make it a successful one is to
find out what the issue is. What is the one thing holding back your
relationship and making it difficult?
There may even be multiple issues you should deal with before finding
success in your relationship. Does your partner have commitment issues?
Do YOU have commitment issues? Do you not trust them? Are you
long-distance? Solving these problems is the first step to having a
successful relationship.
#2 Open your communication. Chances are, if your
relationship is complicated then there is a severe lack in
communication. Most complications come out of misunderstandings or
problems the other person doesn’t even know exist.
Come to an agreement to openly talk to each other about everything.
When you’re feeling insecure or distrusting or having a problem with
what they’re doing or vice versa, openly talk about it and solve those
issues immediately.
#3 Don’t be afraid to demand more. If you think your
relationship is complicated, then you’re unhappy. If you believe in the
person you’re with and that they’re the one for you, then you can’t be
so darn shy about what you need from them.
Open your mouth and let your voice be heard. If they care about you
the same way, they will comply if your want is reasonable. If not, then
you shouldn’t be with someone who doesn’t value you.
#4 Realize you may be the problem. Maybe you’re the
very reason your relationship is complicated in the first place. Look at
the situation from an outsider’s perspective. Understand you may
actually be the one thing stopping your relationship from being
successful.
Be honest with yourself. Do you need some fixing before your
relationship finds success? If it is you, you should adjust something in
your life. Perhaps seek out additional help before you hope to have any
successful relationship.
#5 Make your unhappiness known. You may think your
relationship is complicated, but your partner may think everything is
perfectly fine and you’re both as happy as ever. If that’s the case, you
HAVE to speak up and let your unhappiness be heard.
Walk up to your partner, ask them to talk, and then just say it. Tell
them why you’re unhappy and that you feel the relationship is in
jeopardy. If your partner cares about you as much as you do them, then
they’ll be willing to solve it so you can both be happy in a successful
relationship.
#6 Go to your support system. When your relationship
is complicated it can be tempting to hide your problems from those
closest to you just out of pure embarrassment. Open up to them and let
them know what’s going on.
They can give you unbiased feedback on how to fix things, and may
even help you find success in your relationship. Having this support
system also gives you the courage to speak up to your partner about
everything that’s going on as well.
#7 Spend some time apart. You may think this will do
harm to your relationship, but it works wonders. You need to spend some
time apart if you think your relationship is complicated. Being away
from them for a decent length of time not only helps you miss them, but
it’ll give you a clear head.
You’ll be able to think through your relationship and situation
without their influence. You can figure out how you feel and what you
want. Then you can make those clear to your significant other so you can
move forward.
#8 Remember why you’re with them in the first place. It’s
funny how when you’re with someone for a while and things start going
bad you forget about why you got with them in the first place. You
pretty much forget all about the qualities you love about them.
In order to handle a complicated relationship, remember why it is
you’re with them in the first place. Who knows? Maybe you won’t be able
to come up with a reason, and that tells you all you need to know about
how to fix—or not fix—your relationship.
#9 Get rid of the obstacles making it complicated. If
you both have really hard jobs and can’t really see each other or one
of you has an ex that keeps popping up, get rid of them. I’m not saying
to completely give up your job, but find a way to take some time to see
them.
Getting rid of those obstacles gets rid of the excuses you both can
use to not make your relationship a success. If you don’t have anything
holding back your relationship, it can no longer be complicated.
#10 Love your significant other and show that every day. This
may seem like an obvious thing to do, but most couples completely
forget about this. They may tell their partner they love them on a daily
basis, but if they don’t show it then it’s completely pointless!
If you don’t feel loved and neither does your partner, then it seems
like a complicated relationship. Even doing little things here and there
can work wonders in helping you both realize you can have a happy and
healthy relationship.
Relationships are tricky things to figure out. For some of
us, they end up being a complicated mess. If that’s you, then these tips
will help you fix your complications and find success in your
relationship.
