Facebook totally hit the nail on the head when it introduced a relationship status as, ‘Its complicated’, for most human relationships are exactly that. Differentiating between love and lust is not an easy task at all, and there can be no scientific proof about feelings. One just has to think rationally and refer to these 8 points if you are still muggled up in the lust v/s love confusion.
1.It is lust if you feel like getting intimate all the time
While it’s natural for couples to feel the need to get physically intimate, it’s a sign of lust if that’s all you want to do with your partner. You are not keen on doing other stuff like going for dinners, talking, getting to know her, but instead want to jump straight to the physical part and find any and every opportunity to get intimate.
2.It is love if you both are more of friends than lovers
People who lust for each other don’t want to waste time getting to know each other as only physical interaction and looks matter to them. It’s a strong feeling that vanishes after sometime. However, true love only develops through a good friendship. If you both are best friends as well as lovers, then it’s true romance.
3.It is lust if you have same feelings for other girls too
Your girlfriend may be quite hot, but if you feel like kissing almost every other hot girl you espy and even approach, then you are a lusty player, and not a true lover.
4.It is love if you want to be with only your girl and don’t care about other girls
Your current girlfriend is always on your mind and in your heart. You have no interest in pursuing other girls or don’t feel the same attraction with anyone else apart form your girl.
5.It is lust if you are casually dating
If you have set out to date a girl thinking that it’s just a casual short term thing, and don’t intend to commit to her but have asked her out only because you want to satisfy your physical needs, then it’s obviously not love.
6.It is love if you envision your future with your partner
Love is a lasting feeling while lust is a short term self fulfillment feeling. When you are in love, you feel like being with that person forever and foresee a future with them.
7.It is lust if you get bored with your partner after the initial courtship period is over
Do you feel like the initial spark vanishing after you both have gotten intimate a few times? Do you feel like moving on to a new girl who has started to interest you, albeit physically? Do you not feel like continuing with your girl and making efforts to reinvent the chemistry? If your answer to all of these questions was yes, then it was never love.
8.It is love if the feelings that you had before, persist even after a long time
There’s no doubt of you being in love if you feel the same romantic feelings of loyalty, care, tenderness and trust with which you started dating her, even after a substantial period of time.
1.It is lust if you feel like getting intimate all the time
While it’s natural for couples to feel the need to get physically intimate, it’s a sign of lust if that’s all you want to do with your partner. You are not keen on doing other stuff like going for dinners, talking, getting to know her, but instead want to jump straight to the physical part and find any and every opportunity to get intimate.
2.It is love if you both are more of friends than lovers
People who lust for each other don’t want to waste time getting to know each other as only physical interaction and looks matter to them. It’s a strong feeling that vanishes after sometime. However, true love only develops through a good friendship. If you both are best friends as well as lovers, then it’s true romance.
3.It is lust if you have same feelings for other girls too
Your girlfriend may be quite hot, but if you feel like kissing almost every other hot girl you espy and even approach, then you are a lusty player, and not a true lover.
4.It is love if you want to be with only your girl and don’t care about other girls
Your current girlfriend is always on your mind and in your heart. You have no interest in pursuing other girls or don’t feel the same attraction with anyone else apart form your girl.
5.It is lust if you are casually dating
If you have set out to date a girl thinking that it’s just a casual short term thing, and don’t intend to commit to her but have asked her out only because you want to satisfy your physical needs, then it’s obviously not love.
6.It is love if you envision your future with your partner
Love is a lasting feeling while lust is a short term self fulfillment feeling. When you are in love, you feel like being with that person forever and foresee a future with them.
7.It is lust if you get bored with your partner after the initial courtship period is over
Do you feel like the initial spark vanishing after you both have gotten intimate a few times? Do you feel like moving on to a new girl who has started to interest you, albeit physically? Do you not feel like continuing with your girl and making efforts to reinvent the chemistry? If your answer to all of these questions was yes, then it was never love.
8.It is love if the feelings that you had before, persist even after a long time
There’s no doubt of you being in love if you feel the same romantic feelings of loyalty, care, tenderness and trust with which you started dating her, even after a substantial period of time.
