The love triangle between friends has been shown umpteen times in movies and TV shows. However, what does one do when it translates into the real world? It’s a tough call for both friends because many a time the friendship is put at risk for the sake of romance, and while it could be a risk well taken, it often backfires, leaving people lonely.
1. Don’t make a move on the girl ASAP
Making a move on the common crush right after you get to know of your friend’s liking for her shows that you are willing to throw away a carefully built friendship over a girl. If you really value your relationship, then avoid taking spontaneous decisions like this and competing with each other.
2. Discuss your intentions with each other
You both ought to have a mutual discussion regarding your true feelings for the girl. If you are looking for a casual fling while your friend has fallen seriously hard for her then you should back off and vice versa. Also, it’s a question of who liked the girl first. If you feel your friend started liking her only after you admitted about your crush to him, in a bid of unhealthy competition, then it makes sense to tell him how you feel.
3. Find out who is the girl closer to
A valid point of determination could be to calculate whom the crush is closer to among the two of you. You could wait for some time and see how she interacts with the both of you. If she seems to be dropping hints to you or your friend, then discuss them with each other and proceed from there.
4. Discuss it
Encourage your friend to be honest about his feelings and views on this whole issue. Sit down and have a frank talk about it because communication makes a lot of things clear. Shoving the issue under the carpet will only result in confusion.
5. Don’t make the girl a bet
Guys think it’s macho to make a girl a trophy and challenge each other to win her over. Don’t start a betting game, because firstly, it will create bitterness among the both of you. Secondly, if and when the girl finds out about such immature tactics, she will not want to have anything to do with both, you and your friend.
6. Promise to be friends no matter what
Lay a ground rule and follow the bro code, as has been made famous by the character of Barney Stinson from the TV sitcom, How I met your mother, about bros before hoes. This means that whether you both lose the girl or any of you gets her, friendship should matter the most and not get strained because of women. Take an oath to maintain good relations no matter what the outcome.
1. Don’t make a move on the girl ASAP
Making a move on the common crush right after you get to know of your friend’s liking for her shows that you are willing to throw away a carefully built friendship over a girl. If you really value your relationship, then avoid taking spontaneous decisions like this and competing with each other.
2. Discuss your intentions with each other
You both ought to have a mutual discussion regarding your true feelings for the girl. If you are looking for a casual fling while your friend has fallen seriously hard for her then you should back off and vice versa. Also, it’s a question of who liked the girl first. If you feel your friend started liking her only after you admitted about your crush to him, in a bid of unhealthy competition, then it makes sense to tell him how you feel.
3. Find out who is the girl closer to
A valid point of determination could be to calculate whom the crush is closer to among the two of you. You could wait for some time and see how she interacts with the both of you. If she seems to be dropping hints to you or your friend, then discuss them with each other and proceed from there.
4. Discuss it
Encourage your friend to be honest about his feelings and views on this whole issue. Sit down and have a frank talk about it because communication makes a lot of things clear. Shoving the issue under the carpet will only result in confusion.
5. Don’t make the girl a bet
Guys think it’s macho to make a girl a trophy and challenge each other to win her over. Don’t start a betting game, because firstly, it will create bitterness among the both of you. Secondly, if and when the girl finds out about such immature tactics, she will not want to have anything to do with both, you and your friend.
6. Promise to be friends no matter what
Lay a ground rule and follow the bro code, as has been made famous by the character of Barney Stinson from the TV sitcom, How I met your mother, about bros before hoes. This means that whether you both lose the girl or any of you gets her, friendship should matter the most and not get strained because of women. Take an oath to maintain good relations no matter what the outcome.
