People have become quite liberal these days when it comes to dating someone. They fall in love with someone, irrespective of the age or past of the person, and that leads to a lot of different kinds of relationships. Earlier, it was believed that a man should marry a woman who is about four or five years younger to him. However, these days, many men remain single till the age of 40 or 50, and then find love in someone half their age.
The good thing is that a lot of people these days are accepting the fact that there is nothing wrong in such relationships. It doesn’t matter how old or young a person is, as long as they are in love and are happy together. However, one must realize that when you date someone really older or younger than you, then there are certain natural mental and psychological growth patterns of the other person that you need to get accustomed to. To put it simply, a 45-year-old man might not want to go clubbing, while his 28-year-old girlfriend might want to do that.
So how exactly does a man deal with such a situation when he is dating someone younger? Here are some tips to date younger women successfully.
The good thing is that a lot of people these days are accepting the fact that there is nothing wrong in such relationships. It doesn’t matter how old or young a person is, as long as they are in love and are happy together. However, one must realize that when you date someone really older or younger than you, then there are certain natural mental and psychological growth patterns of the other person that you need to get accustomed to. To put it simply, a 45-year-old man might not want to go clubbing, while his 28-year-old girlfriend might want to do that.
So how exactly does a man deal with such a situation when he is dating someone younger? Here are some tips to date younger women successfully.
1. Don’t forcefully be young
There is a reason why that younger woman is dating you, and that reason is your maturity. She must have dated other men of her age, and wouldn’t have found them to be responsible or mature enough, so she would have fallen for you seeing the opposite traits. And you need to keep giving that to her all the time, because that is exactly what she likes in you. After all, you have more experience than her in a lot of things in life, so use that to please her, instead of forcefully trying to act young, in an effort to impress her. If she liked younger people, she wouldn’t have been dating you.
There is a reason why that younger woman is dating you, and that reason is your maturity. She must have dated other men of her age, and wouldn’t have found them to be responsible or mature enough, so she would have fallen for you seeing the opposite traits. And you need to keep giving that to her all the time, because that is exactly what she likes in you. After all, you have more experience than her in a lot of things in life, so use that to please her, instead of forcefully trying to act young, in an effort to impress her. If she liked younger people, she wouldn’t have been dating you.
2. Respect her experimental stageYou are way ahead of those years in your life where you experimented with various things, and are now finally settled. But she is still starting to explore life and the various options it brings to her, career wise and otherwise. So respect that stage of her life without too much interference and poking. She has all the right to make mistakes and learn from them, just like you did when you were her age.
3. Remember she is an adult, after all
Just because you have more experience of life than her, it does not mean that you shower her with free advice, or put restrictions on her without thinking. She is an adult, after all, and not a child. She obviously would know what’s best for her, and even if she doesn’t, let her figure that out on her own, at her own pace. You have no right to spoil that pace for her and control her like a little child.
4. Understand what she wants
Unfortunately or fortunately when you are in such a relationship, you need to prioritize the girl’s wishes more. You need to understand what she wants, more than making her understand what you want. This is mainly because of the fact that she likes people older to her as they are mature (and that obviously means that she herself might be a little mature for her age, thus making you both compatible), but at the same time she may also want to use her young age to live a lot of fantasies that young people have. So you need to find that point of balance, and please her, the way she likes it. Moreover, move at her pace, and don’t rush things into marriage or anything else, unless she is comfortable. You have crossed your marriageable age, but she may have not even reached her desired marriageable age yet!
Just because you have more experience of life than her, it does not mean that you shower her with free advice, or put restrictions on her without thinking. She is an adult, after all, and not a child. She obviously would know what’s best for her, and even if she doesn’t, let her figure that out on her own, at her own pace. You have no right to spoil that pace for her and control her like a little child.
4. Understand what she wants
Unfortunately or fortunately when you are in such a relationship, you need to prioritize the girl’s wishes more. You need to understand what she wants, more than making her understand what you want. This is mainly because of the fact that she likes people older to her as they are mature (and that obviously means that she herself might be a little mature for her age, thus making you both compatible), but at the same time she may also want to use her young age to live a lot of fantasies that young people have. So you need to find that point of balance, and please her, the way she likes it. Moreover, move at her pace, and don’t rush things into marriage or anything else, unless she is comfortable. You have crossed your marriageable age, but she may have not even reached her desired marriageable age yet!
5. Communicate a lotJust like they say that siblings or even parents and children can have a generation gap, similarly, you two also have that gap. The only way you can fill that up is by communicating a lot and discussing things openly. It is only when you both will be convinced and happy with your slightly odd and unconventional relationship, that you will be able to convince the world about it. So make sure your foundation is not shaky, and both of you are talking to each other a lot about what’s bothering each other, or how you should take the relationship forward.
Needless to say, not all relationships are the same, and somewhere down the line you will start to build your own little list of tips and pointers. But these basic ones should help you start off the bond happily and deal with the initial stages well enough.
Needless to say, not all relationships are the same, and somewhere down the line you will start to build your own little list of tips and pointers. But these basic ones should help you start off the bond happily and deal with the initial stages well enough.
