For some people, talking dirty is a necessary and active part of their sex life. It helps heighten the mood and the pleasure both before and during the sexual intercourse. It also plays a part in improving your sex life. It doesn’t necessarily have to be done when you are in bed. You could just call her in the middle of work and make her go gaga. Sometimes dirty talk can be more powerful and seductive than a porn movie, or say a sexy negligee. Encourage her to do some dirty talking on her own. If you are wondering on how to start it or want to spice it up a little more, here are a few tips.
1.Ask her what she is comfortable with
She might not be okay with you name calling. Before you do some dirty talking in bed, ask her what she likes to hear or what her boundaries are; you don’t want her to go cold turkey on you.
2.Make sure you both are really close
You might be seeing each other for a long time, but she might not be ready to see this side to you. So make sure you have reached that point where dirty talk would just arouse her and not make her uncomfortable.
3.Do not assume that she would like everything you have to say
Just because she got really turned on the last time you talked dirty doesn’t mean it will happen every single time and she might not like you talking dirty the same evening even if the morning was magical.
Do not start rattling off like a robot as soon as you hit the bed. Build up the tempo and based on how she responds to your talk, keep going ahead and pushing the boundaries.
She might like dirty talk and you may not. If you are doing it for her, sound natural. She can definitely smell it if you are faking it.
6.Build it up
It doesn’t really have to happen in bed, start texting her on your way home or email her when you are in office, detailing what you would be doing to her later. She will be hot and ready for you when you get home.
Dirty talk during sex can also be used as a camouflage to tell your partner what you really want in the sack, you could start by suggesting a few moves or positions you would want her to do. If she likes it, she’d do it, if she does not, it can always be the talk and both of you can shrug it off. No harm done there. There is no general rule when it comes to dirty talking to your girlfriend. You learn as you go. Just don’t repeat your mistakes.