Relationships don’t always turn out to be as perfect and happy as seen in the movies. They need to be worked upon continuously. Here are a few ways you can make your relationship work with your girlfriend.
1. Actively invest in communicating with your girlfriend
A relationship is much more than exchanging flirty sweet nothings and talking about each other’s favorites. Real relationships face problems and issues on an ongoing basis which need to be addressed by building good communication channels. If you want your relationship to have a solid foundation for the long run, make sure that you talk to your girlfriend often. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a sit down discussion that runs over a couple of hours. Simply ensure that you are in the loop with her about every aspect of her life and vice versa.
2. Understand your girlfriend’s likes and dislikes
In a relationship, likes and dislikes are not limited to restaurants and gifts. You must understand your girlfriend’s personality by knowing what is close to her heart and what isn’t. This will help you to get insights into what ticks her off and what keeps her happy. For example, if most of your girlfriend’s hobbies are indoor activities, you can infer that she is an introvert. This way, the next time you have a fight, you will know how to deal with it better by leaving her alone for a while.
3. Quit name calling and useless fighting
Although it is commonly believed that fighting and arguing brings a couple closer, it may not always hold true for everyone. Even the way you fight with each other says a lot about the strength of your relationship. It is alright to bicker about small things in a relationship. But if you both resort to name calling and disrespecting each other for small things, it could cause a dent in your relationship. Displaying a mature way of dealing with a crisis will help you to make your relationship work.
4. Don’t keep problems unresolved
One of the common things that may eat away into your relationship is keeping problems and fights unresolved. It doesn’t matter whether you’ve had a big or a small fight with your girlfriend, don’t keep it hanging and forget all about it. When fights are not resolved, they leave a mark of discomfort in the subconscious. This may result in mood swings or random bursts of emotion. Resolving a matter on hand will make sure that you are better equipped to deal with the situation when it arises again in the future.
5. Give each other space
It is a myth that couples who spend more time in each other’s company have stronger bonds. Interestingly, giving each other privacy and space is an equally important aspect of making a relationship work. Whether you have had a fight with your girlfriend, you have an important assignment to finish or you need to spend time with your family, consider leaving each other alone for a while. This will help you both to come back with a renewed sense of energy towards each other.
6. Focus on the little things
Don’t expect every date with your girlfriend to be super romantic or everyday of your relationship to be a page torn out of a fairy tale book. To make your relationship work, embrace the small things. This includes giving each other a warm morning hug, checking on each other several times in the day and comforting each other about small stress factors in life.