You love your girlfriend a lot and you want everything to be perfect in your relationship. You also know that she loves you just as much, and yet, something just doesn’t seem to be right. For unknown reasons, you are drifting apart from each other. Perhaps both of you are being completely honest with one another and you like everything about each other, what could be this sorcery that is spoiling your relationship? It could be you. Are you an emotionally unavailable person? We all need an emotional touch from the person we love, and it is definitely not your girlfriend’s fault if she too expects the same from you. The best thing to do is to know yourself, and then work to correct it. Here are 5 signs which will help you judge if you’re an emotionally unavailable person or not.
1. You are difficult to reach
A person is only hard to reach at all times when either he’s a celebrity, or he is creating the difficulty himself. Do you always respond late to your girlfriend’s messages, or do most of her calls go to your voicemail? Are you always busy with work? If you’re physically unavailable for her at most times, then you’re definitely being emotionally unavailable too.
2. You avoid couple time
Do you avoid being alone with your girlfriend and always have your friends over? Another bad sign! A girl loves to spend some one-on-one time with their boyfriend doing petty couple things. No, this isn’t about sex! What girls love to do is just sit and chat, or maybe watch a movie together at home or cook dinner together. These small things are what really nourishes a relationship. This does not have to be a part of your everyday routine, but if you’ve never done something like this, you need to start fixing your mistakes now.
3. You avoid serious conversation
You want all your conversations to be about something fun. You totally avoid controversial topics or subjects that may lead to disagreement. The best way to deal with any problem is to talk it out, but if you keep avoiding them continuously, then in future, you’re going to face a much bigger problem.
4. You avoid commitment
You are not someone who is prepared to commit to your relationship. You don’t want to make it public on Facebook, nor do you want your friends and family to know about it. Not just the relationship, but you may also be afraid to make any other rigid and long-term commitments towards your career as well.
5. It’s always about you
When was the last time you did something that your girlfriend wanted? Can’t remember, is it? If your relationship has always been about you and you alone – your choice of food, your choice of home, your choice of everything, you are definitely depriving her of the emotional touch that she deserves. If a relationship has to prosper, it needs to be balanced.