It’s easy to get so discouraged with the dating scene when you’ve convinced yourself that another relationship disaster is waiting to unfold. You may think you’re hiding those negative feelings, but you’re not.
We all have a tendency to beat ourselves up about past relationship mistakes. In truth, that accomplishes nothing. Your dating resolutions for 2012 should be to learn from your past mistakes, and chart a course that will not take you down the same path but will allow you to draw into your life the kind of relationship that you've always wanted. Here are six resolutions to take to heart:
Resolution #1: If The Relationship You Have Now Doesn’t Work, Move On
Probably the most common mistake people make when they are inside of a dead-end relationship is to not see beyond it. We settle for a variety of disappointments in a less than stellar relationship, convinced that what we have is better than what we may find if we let go. That is self-defeating, and it’s selling yourself short.
Don’t be afraid to move on. This year, step outside that box you’ve put yourself in. It is the only way in which you’ll find the happiness you deserve.
Resolution #2: You Get More When You Give More
Happiness comes at a price: truly sharing yourself with others. Relationships can’t flourish and grow to their full potential unless you’re willing to give of yourself. By opening your mind, you open your heart as well. That old adage is true: “Give, and you will receive.”
Resolution #3: Be Creative In Looking For Love
The biggest mistake we make is to keep doing what we’ve been doing in the past. If you want to expand your dating world you have to consider new possibilities. Join a club, become active in a charity, sign up at a gym and take some fitness classes. Potential mates are everywhere but they’re not hiding under your bed. Get out there and find out just how big a world this really can be.
Resolution #4: A Set-Up Is Not Necessarily A Bad Thing
Don’t allow one or two dating disasters arranged by a loving aunt spoil you to the idea of meeting someone just because it’s a date arranged by (hopefully) someone else. The relationship universe is filled with people who met through mutual friends, so be open to the possibility.
Resolution #5: Think Positive, And Good Things Can Happen
It’s easy to get so discouraged with the dating scene when you’ve convinced yourself that another relationship disaster is waiting to unfold. You may think you’re hiding those negative feelings, but you’re not. There’s a lot to be said about a positive attitude generating positive results. Try it once, and you’ll be hooked.
Resolution #6: Each Day Is A New Adventure
This New Year, 2012, is a leap year, so you have 366 days in which to meet your soul mate. He may be next to you on the bus going to work, or standing in front of you in line at a Starbucks. Love happens all the time. But it happens so much easier for those with open eyes, hearts, and minds, so enjoy the adventure.