Whether the line is drawn at long embraces or all the way at kissing, if there are no rules set in place, then there aren’t any to break –it’s truly as simple as that.
Does your man seem to have eyes for everyone in the room but you? Is he a little too friendly with your girls? If so, it may be time to put your man’s flirty behavior in check. While a smile and a handshake are nothing to give a second thought to, overly gregarious gestures may have you giving your man the evil eye. If he’s a bit out of line but you’re not sure how to address it, here are a few tools, outside of snapping his neck back into place, that will have his attention right back where it should be… on you!
1.Set Boundaries
Many times the line between friendly and flirty is a bit blurred. It is important to set boundaries for what’s considered appropriate behavior within the confines of your relationship from the start. Whether the line is drawn at long embraces or all the way at kissing, if there are no rules set in place, then there aren’t any to break –it’s truly as simple as that.
2.Call It Like You See It
If he’s stepping out of line let him know! Sometimes naturally flirtatious people don’t recognize when they’re overstepping the boundaries. If you call it out when it happens, there will be less room for your beau to negate his actions. While it shouldn’t be done in an overly stern manner, you also shouldn’t make too much of a joke out of it as you may risk losing the serious nature of your sentiments. One thing you may want to try is using a code word to tell your partner when they’re being too flirty. Code words allow you to note his behavior without starting an intense dialogue. This will also help to show him how many times he breaks the rules.
3.Communicate
Be sure to actually take the time to help your partner understand your point of view. No four page letters are needed for this, simply let him know how it makes you feel when he’s overly flirtatious with others. Does it make you jealous? Insecure? Angry? If it evokes one or all of the above emotions, share that with him. This will help for him to be empathetic to your requests and will hopefully make him lay off of the rubber necking.
4.Cut It Off
If he still doesn’t cut the flirting out after the aforementioned steps, it’s time to cut him off. Though a natural flirt is always going to be somewhat friendly (which is probably one of the reason you love them so much), if he can’t seem to get with the program then he probably doesn’t want to. Once you’ve had the conversation over and over again and nothing has changed, it may be time to look for love elsewhere. Any many who only has eyes for you won’t want you to feel anything less. If he can’t make you feel like you’re the only girl in the world then the relationship probably better off in the dump!
