Here are some romantic as well as downright disgustingly intimate things that every couple needs to partake in at least once in their relationship.
No one has a perfect relationship. Remember all those sappy books you
read, chick flicks you watched, and annoying Instagram pictures you
forced yourself to like? Well, none of them are real.
Couples the world over have been fooled into thinking that what makes
a relationship work is being able to chalk up as many lovely moments as
they can and completely going ape-shit on the less-than-perfect ones.
But with all the filtering and posting of only the good stuff, you can
be sure that your perception of how couples really are is just the
idyllic side of their relationship.
Being in and out of relationships for close to two decades has taught
me that committing to someone takes plenty of work. From flings to
serious commitments, there is one thing that they all have in common:
they were not always pretty.
Please don’t brush me off as a cynical witch who doesn’t believe in
romance. On the contrary, I am pleased to say that I am someone who
understands that it is the core strength of the relationship that
matters the most, and not just the image of perfection people try so
hard to project.
Loving your partner and being loved back despite the ugliness is by
far the most romantic aspect of being with someone. At the end of the
day, it’s all about feeling good and being comfortable with each other
without having to change who you are at heart.
13 of the most intimate activities couples should try
The same way unicorns don’t exist, neither do perfect relationships.
In the end, it all comes down to co-existing and building a life
together with another human being. Hence, here is a compilation of
romantic and honest-to-god intimate things that every couple needs to
indulge in to receive the stamp of approval from reality.
#1 Love notes. Let’s
start this list with something romantic. Leaving each other love notes
is undoubtedly one of simplest ways that you can build intimacy with
your partner. When you write something down, you are basically sealing
your message’s fate as one that is real and meaningful.
You can leave little Post Its in your partner’s suitcase every time
they leave for a trip. You will be surprised at how much that little
gesture will mean to them. Not only that, it will remind your partner
that they have someone waiting for them at home. You can also drop your
partner a sweet email or text message with words of encouragement and
love.
#2 Farting. There
is no denying that flatulence is the least sexy thing that a human
could possibly do, but the key word here is “human”. You are a human
being and so is your partner. Farting is natural and, as disgusting as
it can be, should not be something you keep from each other.
Did you know that there are couples out there who, despite being with
each other for years *and some may even have a child together*, still
can’t manage to fart anywhere near their partner? To me, that is
downright mind blowing. What could be more intimate than raising a
family together? Apparently to them, farting is.
It’s understandable if you don’t want to completely let loose in a
new relationship, but once you have secured something long term with
someone, it doesn’t make sense to hide this smelly yet completely
natural occurrence from each other. Funnily enough, farting should
bridge the intimacy between the two of you while also making for some
great comic relief.
#3 Cooking. Cooking
for each other is definitely a big must when it comes to doing
something intimate together. Whether you work as a team or decide to
take turns treating each other to a home cooked meal, this act of love
is definitely something worth doing. No matter how bad of a cook you
are, the only way to break down all those culinary barriers is to
literally let your partner taste what you can do.
#4 Do it somewhere new. Build
intimacy by letting your kinky side shine. Instead of repetitively
making love at home, why not be a little naughty and do it somewhere
new? Whether it’s in the bushes at the park or in an H&M changing
room or even a cheesy love hotel, don’t be afraid to let your wild side
out.
You’ll be surprised at how much a sexual escapade can help link the
two of you together, not to mention the whole risk of getting caught
would definitely add a bit of thrill and excitement.
#5 Financial planning. As
dull as it may be, discussing your finances is very important in
bridging the divide between two people. It’s always good to know the
state of your partner’s affairs, and letting him or her in on your
financial world will undoubtedly help bring you closer.
For example, if you’re a financial mess and have finally decided to
share this embarrassing bit of information with your partner, he or she
will be able to give you advice, seek help with you or simply help you
control how much you’re spending.
A word of caution: don’t jump into setting up a joint account or be
loose about giving your partner a credit card. Being aware of how your
significant other is doing financially is good enough for the time
being. Only take further steps once you have determined that you want to
start building your future together.
#6 Experiment with sex. Although
not everything is about sex, copulating with your partner sure is
important! Play around with different sexual positions, experiment with
weird foreplay, use props, and try things you never thought you would
ever do. Letting down your guard and traversing into brand spanking *pun
intended* new territory is a fun way to build intimacy with your loved
one.
#7 Pooping in front of each other. This
is certainly crossing the line into a truly disgusting zone. However,
what better way to feel more intimate with your partner than by not
being shy about doing this natural deed?
It doesn’t mean that you have to sit and stare into each other’s eyes
while on the throne. THAT is disgusting. But consider this: not
everyone is blessed with multiple bathrooms. Sometimes, a scenario where
one partner is on the throne while the other is in the shower is
completely inevitable. It’s completely understandable if some of you
find this utterly unacceptable, but in emergency cases, you don’t really
have much of a choice.
#8 Live out a fantasy. Whether
it’s dressing up as a French maid, sticking pasties on your nipples
while grooving to Michael Bolton or playing out a home invasion scene,
you should indulge in living out each other’s sexual fantasies no matter
how strange.
By disclosing each other’s sexual fantasies, you get a glimpse into
each other’s sick and twisted minds and if you still love each other
after all that is said and done, then good for you. Nothing beats being
intimate with each other more than sharing and playing out secret
fantasies.
#9 Share secrets. This
brings us to more sharing, but instead of sexual fantasies, share your
deepest secrets. Whether it’s a traumatic clown experience you had as a
child or an embarrassing incident that involved a coffee maker and
darts, there is no shame in sharing your secrets with your significant
other. Not only will you get to know this person better, you will also
learn to trust your partner more.
#10 Pop pimples. This
other downright gross bit of advice is meant for all you long term
partners out there. If you have a partner you can call to pop pimples on
your butt and lend you a hand with removing those unsightly blackheads,
then you’ve definitely got a keeper on your hands. It takes a whole lot
of trust to be able to pull this stunt off!
#11 Be honest. If
you want to build intimacy, you have to be honest with each other.
There is no way around this obvious fact. A relationship built on lies
and half truths is not a realistic one.
Sit your partner down and be honest about what you want from the
relationship. Tell your partner about how you genuinely feel and be just
as authentic with your reaction when they share in kind. The whole
point of picking and settling down with a mate is being able to share a
life together and that means not having to second guess when your
partner tells you something.
#12 Use nicknames. Those
in long term relationships will tell you that calling their loved ones
by name seems bizarre and too formal. To build intimacy with each other,
pick cute nicknames and use those instead. From basic ones like “babe”
to those that stem from inside jokes like “green fairy”, just go with
the flow. Don’t worry, you only ever need to use this when it’s just the
two of you.
#13 Schedule a date night often. Forging
a strong bond of intimacy between two people takes time and effort. So
you need to spend as much time together as you can. If both of you are
caught up in your careers, have kids, or just don’t have much time for
your relationship, then you need to make adjustments to liven things up a
bit. No matter how busy life gets, you have to make time for your
special someone.
Intimacy entails more than just having sex on the regular. It means
having a deep understanding of each other throughout different
situations and scenarios. Be open towards your partner and allow
yourselves to be more candid towards each other. Whether it means being
accepting of each other despite your less-than-pleasant bodily functions
or exposing your innermost secrets, building intimacy is one of the
core foundations of a lasting successful relationship.
Every couple has their own way of
reinforcing their intimacy towards each other. Give these 13 activities a
try and see just how well they’re able to strengthen your bond with
your loved one.
