If your love life has gone stale or you just want to infuse the passion back into your relationship, check out these tips to bring back that spark!
Every relationship goes through the initial honeymoon phase, where
both partners can’t keep their hands off each other. Soon after,
responsibilities and your daily routine creep in, and the passion starts
to fade. Just because you are both in that comfortable phase, doesn’t
mean you have to lose the spark you once had.
However, the problem is that it takes work to keep it alive. Letting
things go downhill is often a lot easier than pushing them back up
again. You’ll need to commit to dates, go the extra mile to please your
partner and exert the extra effort to rekindle that romantic spark. It
may feel like a lot of work, but it’s well worth exerting the effort on,
when you know that it can bring back the pep in your relationship step.
How to bring back the passion into your relationship
Both partners have wants and needs, and by respecting each other’s
desires and making an effort in the relationship, you will have the
passion back before you know it. Here are a few ways you can get the
spark back into your relationship:
#1 Have date nights. Setting up date nights and
sticking to those dates can be extremely beneficial for your
relationship. Whether you have kids or a stressful job, you need time
away from the chaos to be with your partner in a relaxing atmosphere.
Going out for dinner means that no one has to worry about making
dinner, cleaning up, or slipping into the slump of falling asleep in
front of the TV. You can both enjoy good food *which is an aphrodisiac*
and fall back in love with each other’s company.
Communication, believe it or not, is one of the most important
factors in evoking romance and passion between couples, and this is why
date nights are so effective! While love is in the heart, passionate
feelings and arousal starts with the mind. When you stimulate each
other’s mind through communication, laughing, and sharing ideas, then
the physical aspects will naturally follow.
You’ll feel more connected to one another, and the passion will
re-surface. Plus, sitting across from each other gives you time to
really look at your partner and admire what really draws you into them,
whether its their bubbly personality, their infectious laugh or their
quick wit. In doing so, your desire for your partner is likely to grow.
#2 Surprises. Everybody loves surprises! Even those
people who say they hate surprises wouldn’t mind getting a random little
gift or a cute card every now and then. When gift giving is often only
expected during birthdays, anniversaries and holidays, there is no more
surprise, and instead, it becomes more of an obligation. You know that
your partner will be giving you a gift on your birthday, you expect it,
but you also know that they are somewhat obligated to do so, otherwise
you will be upset.
Showing love throughout the year, and expressing yourself via loving
gestures regularly *not just on Valentine’s Day*, can work wonders in
bringing the romance and excitement back. Giving and receiving in a
relationship feels nice for both parties, and lets the two of you know
that you both are willing to put effort into showing your partner how
much they mean to you.
#3 Thoughtful gifts. This is different from
surprises. When you give each other gifts, do you put adequate thought
into it? Or are you the type of couple to ask each other what they want
and then gift it to them? While it’s nice to get exactly what you want,
it doesn’t leave any room for imagination, since you’ll be expecting it.
Why not try something different and let your partner pick out things
that they feel you would like or that represent you? You’ll get a chance
to see how much they know you, and you’ll feel flattered that they put
that much thought into a gift. Creative gifts are even better, and
handmade crafts and your own compositions are those that your partner
will remember forever.
When you listen to what your partner likes, you’re more likely to be
able to pick the perfect present for them. So listen up, and pay
attention to the little clues that your partner may mention.
#4 Work on your confidence. Confidence is important
in releasing your inhibitions, trying new things, and feeling good about
yourself within a relationship. A common complaint in some
relationships is a partner’s lack of confidence and its effect on their
sex life or the romance within their relationship.
To enhance your confidence, take up a new type of exercise, buy new
clothing, lingerie, get a make-over, or work on some of the insecurities
you may have about yourself. Everyone has something within themselves
that they want to work on, and everyone is capable of self-improvement.
This will help you let your guard down and be more receptive to new
levels of passion and romance within your relationship.
#5 Alone time. This is time for the two of you
without kids, friends or relatives around. Alone time should be spent
communicating with each other, so that you can feel close to one
another. It’s not a time for negative talk or boring routine stuff, just
time spent with each other to make sure that the communication is
there. Communication is a large part of any relationship, and it really
affects the romance within a relationship as well.
If you find that there’s often dead air between the two of you, don’t
be afraid to open up a topic to your partner. Start with whatever
common ground got you bonding in the first place, whether it’s a shared
love of rock music, a particular hobby, or even an enjoyable experience
you once had. Reinforcing the bonds you share during your alone time
definitely helps ignite the spark you may be missing in your
relationship.
#6 Pamper and nurture each other. Life is filled
with stresses and obligations that can really put a damper on your
romantic relationship. Instead of letting it drag you down, why not help
your partner to de-stress and feel pampered. Pampering each other will
be a comforting way to bond and help the other feel like the center of
attention.
Massages with lotion, back rubs, and bubble baths are ways you can
feel pampered, worshipped, and close to your significant other. These
will whisk your cares away, help you let your guard down, and bring back
feelings of comfort and arousal for the both of you.
#7 Spice up your sex life. Spicing up your sex life
will do wonders for increasing the passion in your relationship.
Needless to say, the first way to do this is to avoid doing it the same
way every time. Routine breeds familiarity, and familiarity breeds
contempt. Talk to each other about things you like and things that you
want to experience sexually as a couple.
Take trips to the sex store together, talk dirty during sex, have
extended foreplay, watch porn together, dress up, and role play to avoid
a stale and staid sex life. There’s nothing wrong with experimenting
together if it helps add a renewed spark to your relationship. If sex is
an issue that could be negatively affecting your relationship, it could
be linked to repressed feelings or health issues, and you may want to
consider seeing a sex therapist.
#8 Get your adrenaline going. Be adventurous and do
something that gets your adrenaline pumping, like rock climbing or
indoor skydiving together. Adrenaline is a natural high, and it can add
the necessary fun and fuel to your fire as a couple. Some couples who
work out together or dance together are also known to feel more
energetic in the sack, thanks to the heightened doses of endorphins
running through their system.
Keep that spark alive!
It’s very easy for a love relationship to get too comfortable or even
routine after some time. Both parties putting in the necessary effort
will make sure the spark stays alive for years to come. Being in love is
a beautiful thing, so prioritizing passion and romance into your
relationship will add to the satisfaction that both parties crave.
Make sure that you listen and communicate with your partner about
what they want and need from you. Passion and romance need the right
environment to thrive, and by making it a joint effort, you’ll have all
the necessary ingredients for a hot and steamy love life.
If the romance in your relationship is dwindling, or your sex
life is going stale, there are tons of ways you can bring it back to
life. Communicating with your partner and trying some of the tips above
will ensure you’ll turn up the heat a few notches!
