Love is a very complicated thing. Usually, there are signals early on in a relationship to indicate reasons to love someone and hold onto them forever.
There are all sorts of reasons to love someone. People come into, and
sometimes out, of our lives during different stages, making a small or
enormous impact. And sometimes, you must kiss a lot of frogs to find
your prince. What happens if you are unsure about whether they will ever
turn into your happily ever after?
The hardest thing about love is that it is never perfect or easy.
When you love someone, you give a little of yourself to get all of them.
This leaves you feeling vulnerable. Letting go and taking a leap of
faith to love someone forever is a huge commitment. Having doubts even
in the most incredible circumstances is normal.
The best reasons to love someone – Should you commit or call it quits?
Before you make a commitment to someone, ensure they are willing to
commit to you. Some things foster a loving and kind relationship between
two people that can’t be fabricated or faked.
Going the distance involves being unconditional, unassuming, and
respect *at times difficult*. Because you can’t foresee all you will
endure as a couple, these signs from the start indicate if the person
you are with is someone to love forever.
These 25 reasons to love someone is a sign that love is meant to be,
minimizes any argument, helps you get through the tough times you are
likely to encounter, and signals you are made to be together forever.
#1 They look past your idiosyncrasies. It isn’t
about someone being able to look past your idiosyncrasies or loving you
despite them. The person to hold onto and love forever loves you because
of them. It is in those silly and quirky things you do that they find
you most lovable.
#2 They do things without being asked. If you notice
your partner does little things for you without you asking, then you
know they pay attention to your needs. It isn’t about flowers on
Valentine’s Day. It is about finding your dirty car washed, or the keys
you couldn’t find, found and sitting by the door. The small things are
the ones that mean the most.
#3 Even when they smell, you love them. If you can
stand their morning breath, post-workout stink, or yard-work-all-day
odor, that says a lot. If you aren’t turned off by their most disgusting
periods, hold onto them.
#4 You tell them anything. There are some things too
embarrassing to tell anyone. If you find you confide even those things
in the person you love, hold onto them forever. That is a signal you
feel unconditional love, which is key to a happy union.
#5 You want to look nice for them. If five months
into the relationship you don’t care about the way that you look when
with them, it may not be the best situation. Finding someone who you
always want to strive to be the best you when with them, says something
about your relationship.
#6 You like their family. You don’t just marry a
person. You marry their family. If you don’t like their parents, or
their family makes you miserable while dating, it puts a lot of strain
on your marriage. Think carefully about the extended people in your
significant other’s life.
#7 You have the same political affiliation. It may seem entirely unrelated, but having the same political ideology is
a predictor of the success of a relationship. The way that you think
politically becomes a hot button as you get older. Being on the same
page helps to strengthen your relationship over time.
#8 You have the same idea of how your family looks. If
you want two children and so do they, then you will disagree less about
your future than if they want eight and you want none. Finding someone
who wants similar things for the future is a sure sign you are probably
meant to be together forever.
#9 You have the same religious preference. You may not attend church every Sunday, but having a similar religious ideology is important.
It may not seem like a big deal when you first fall in love, but
having a family and children means you make decisions about what to
teach them. Having the same beliefs about what goes on after you leave
this earth may be more important than you know.
#10 You share the same hobbies. Having similar
interests means you never run out of things to do together. A couch
potato and an adventurer are going to have a much harder time getting
settled in together then if you both want to climb Mount Everest.
#11 They are your emergency contact. When filling
out paperwork at the doctor’s, there is always the box that says
“emergency contact.” Are they the first person you think of? The person
you should hold onto forever is the first person you want running to
soothe you in an emergency of any type.
#12 When something great happens, you want to call them. Think
about when something amazing happens to you, who is the first person
you think about to share it with? The person who you know delights in
your accomplishments and good news, is the person who supports and cares
about you most. Hold onto them.
#13 When something bad happens, you want to put your head on their shoulder. When
something sad or miserable happens to you, the person you hold onto is
the one who you know not only cares, but will be there to soothe your
wounds and make you feel better. Someone who knows just the right thing
to say to pick you up is the person to stay with forever.
#14 The person you want to spend your free night with. If
you have an unexpected free night, the person you stay with forever is
the first person you think to spend the additional time with. It isn’t
about not being able to get enough of them like at the beginning of the
relationship. It is about wanting to spend time with them every chance
you get.
#15 You defend them valiantly. You know how you cut
your family down, but no one else better? The person you love forever is
someone you defend just as earnestly. You also know they will do the
same for you. If they have your back and you have their back, you will
always be a force to reckon with.
#16 You want to see them happy. If you think of things to do to make them happy throughout the day, then they are someone you think worthy of the extra effort.
#17 You can talk to them about anything. Communication
is key. If you find conversation never lacks or that you are
comfortable enough to sit without saying anything, hang onto them. Being
able to voice a concern without fear of their reaction is also an
excellent sign you should be together.
#18 They know when you are upset. If you don’t even
have to say a word, and your significant other senses you are upset,
love them forever. Being on the same “wavelength” or tuned into each
other’s feelings is a rare thing few couples share. If they ask you what
is wrong before you speak up, they are a keeper.
#19 Trust. If you know they would never lie, steal,
or cheat on you, that is worth its weight in gold. Trusting another
person wholly is the key to a successful relationship.
#20 They remember important dates. The person who
remembers an anniversary, your birthday, or even the day Kurt Cobain
died because it matters to you, is a person to hold onto. Caring enough
to take note and try to make certain days a big deal, is a signal they
keep you on their mind.
#21 They include you. If they always try to add you
to their lives, it shows their willingness to share everything with you.
Asking you to do things you may not necessarily want to do like hunting
or shopping, is a beautiful gesture and lets you know they want you to
be included no matter what it is.
#22 If something bothers you, they stop doing it. If
there are things about the person you are with that bothers you and you
have made it known, but they continue to do it, then they probably care
little about keeping the peace or respecting your needs. Find someone
willing to meet you somewhere in the middle to find a resolution to
problems is worth their weight in gold.
#23 They don’t ask of you what they aren’t willing to do themselves. If
the person you love wouldn’t ask something of you that they wouldn’t be
willing to do themselves, then they are worth holding onto forever.
Sacrifice is a two-way street. If only one sacrifices, there is
potential for resentment.
#24 They not only talk nicely to you, they say nice things about you. Finding
someone who speaks highly of you when you are around and especially
when you are not, is not always easy. It is nice for someone to say nice
things to you, but even better when you hear they have been saying nice
things about you to others.
#25 They keep things between the two of you. Everyone
needs to vent occasionally to a friend or a family member, but you want
someone who will know when not to say things outside of your
relationship. There should be a certain sacredness to what you say to
each other as a couple and the struggles you encounter.
There is no such thing as the perfect human being, but there
is such a thing as the perfect human being for you. It isn’t in their
perfection, but their perfect imperfection that makes them someone to
love and hold onto forever.
