Asking for your girlfriend’s hand in marriage from her parents is a task that most guys have cold feet about. Boost your confidence and be a man who knows how to get what he wants. Keep these 7 tips in mind before popping the all-important question to her folks.
1. Dress formally
Make sure you put on the best formal attire you have and appear well groomed before doing the asking. You could ask your girl for inputs on your look as she would be the best person to judge how favorable her parents would be to your appearance.
2. Have a clear idea of what you are going to say
Write down all that you intend to say while asking for her hand. Say whatever you feel in an honest manner. Just jot down pointers and keep them in your head. No need to prepare a speech and rote it because, that would appear stilted and lest you forget one part, it would get embarrassing for everyone present.
3. Calm those nerves
If you feel nervous before visiting your could-be in-laws, calm yourself with probably a drink or any activity that relaxes your mind. Take your time and then do the needful when you feel you are ready.
4. Inform her parents that you would be talking something important
Don’t just casually visit them for discussing such an important matter and thence catch them off guard. Don’t ask for her hand when they are relaxed and in a casual state of mind. Inform them that you would like to have attendance with them privately for talking about an important issue so that they are also in the right frame of mind.
5. Be conscious about the venue
It’s preferable to do the needful by inviting them over to your home or visiting theirs. A formal sit-down dinner that gives you enough privacy is also a good venue. Don’t go to noisy places elsewhere.
6. Give them good reasons for saying yes
If you feel her folks are a bit on the stricter side, and have huge expectations from their prospective son-in-law, you could think of convincing things to say to them. Explain to them how much you love their daughter, how you completely believe in the institution of marriage, and how nicely you would take care of her.
7. Don’t ask the parents before the daughter
Getting all ready, physically as well as mentally to ask her parents, getting their approval and then informing your girl who may not even be interested in marriage is what most people would term as making a fool of yourself. Propose your girlfriend and be sure she is in it for the long haul as much as you are. Asking her folks is the next step.
1. Dress formally
Make sure you put on the best formal attire you have and appear well groomed before doing the asking. You could ask your girl for inputs on your look as she would be the best person to judge how favorable her parents would be to your appearance.
2. Have a clear idea of what you are going to say
Write down all that you intend to say while asking for her hand. Say whatever you feel in an honest manner. Just jot down pointers and keep them in your head. No need to prepare a speech and rote it because, that would appear stilted and lest you forget one part, it would get embarrassing for everyone present.
3. Calm those nerves
If you feel nervous before visiting your could-be in-laws, calm yourself with probably a drink or any activity that relaxes your mind. Take your time and then do the needful when you feel you are ready.
4. Inform her parents that you would be talking something important
Don’t just casually visit them for discussing such an important matter and thence catch them off guard. Don’t ask for her hand when they are relaxed and in a casual state of mind. Inform them that you would like to have attendance with them privately for talking about an important issue so that they are also in the right frame of mind.
5. Be conscious about the venue
It’s preferable to do the needful by inviting them over to your home or visiting theirs. A formal sit-down dinner that gives you enough privacy is also a good venue. Don’t go to noisy places elsewhere.
6. Give them good reasons for saying yes
If you feel her folks are a bit on the stricter side, and have huge expectations from their prospective son-in-law, you could think of convincing things to say to them. Explain to them how much you love their daughter, how you completely believe in the institution of marriage, and how nicely you would take care of her.
7. Don’t ask the parents before the daughter
Getting all ready, physically as well as mentally to ask her parents, getting their approval and then informing your girl who may not even be interested in marriage is what most people would term as making a fool of yourself. Propose your girlfriend and be sure she is in it for the long haul as much as you are. Asking her folks is the next step.
