The
dating game is one that is played not only with the heart but also the
mind. It has certain rules and if you abide by them, you will strike
gold. However, dating or not dating someone ultimately depends on the
two people involved and how they conduct themselves in the beginning of
the fledgling relationship. There are some myths and old-world like
rules that are not effective but are still followed by many men, in
vain. Here are the top 7 dating myths debunked.
1. Play hard to get
One rule that has been successfully tried and tested since whenever the ritual of dating began, is that of the guy making the first move. New age metrosexual guys think that in this day and age of equality, women should also be doing the pursuing. There are very few women who will make the first move and you can’t afford to wait for them as even if they do approach you, they will be painfully slow in doing so. Playing hard to get will get you nowhere in the dating game, so be a man and make the first move on the woman you have the hots for.
2. Use pick up lines
Using pick up lines is a cheesy and outdated way of getting women. Whoever invented pick up lines, clearly didn’t understand women. A simple introduction works better than trying to come across as an oversmart douche.
3. Rule of 3 days
The 3-day rule of calling up a woman after a first date is so outdated and medieval. It doesn’t make any sense to wait for so long just for the sake of being a tease. If you are interested in her and you feel she is too, be a man and make the first move for the second date. As simple as that.
4. Pay the bill each time
Chivalry is picking up the tab for the first few dates. After that you ought to go dutch; if she offers to pay her half, let her do so. Unless you are a millionaire, in which case you wouldn’t really be reading this, you will go bankrupt funding her.
5. Be a shoulder to cry on
Women love men who listen to them but there’s a difference between listening and becoming the perennial shoulder on which she cries her heart out. If you don’t start talking about better stuff, related to yourself, then you will find yourself friend-zoned. It’s a space wherein the girl has mentally compartmentalized you as a dear friend in need and nothing more. Be a man who shows her the joys of being with you and not a woman who solely listens and comforts others.
6. Be mushy and romantic
Girls like a guy who has a romantic side to him, true. But they get grossed out and would maintain their distance from a guy who starts to get mushy and romantic right after the first date. You have to be like a friend, not a best friend mind you, and get to know her better before starting out slowly with the lovey-dovey talks.
7. Indulge in negging and not complimenting
Bros have a habit of giving this stupid piece of adavice to each other. Yes, women are complicated creatures and sometimes it may feel like the good guys really do finish last, however that doesn’t mean you become a jerk for women don’t like them either. They want a man who will compliment her in a limit so that it sounds genuine. Negging, which is the art of putting women down and making them feel insecure, doesn’t always have the opposite effect. Confident women may insult you and walk out if you start to make them feel insecure.
1. Play hard to get
One rule that has been successfully tried and tested since whenever the ritual of dating began, is that of the guy making the first move. New age metrosexual guys think that in this day and age of equality, women should also be doing the pursuing. There are very few women who will make the first move and you can’t afford to wait for them as even if they do approach you, they will be painfully slow in doing so. Playing hard to get will get you nowhere in the dating game, so be a man and make the first move on the woman you have the hots for.
2. Use pick up lines
Using pick up lines is a cheesy and outdated way of getting women. Whoever invented pick up lines, clearly didn’t understand women. A simple introduction works better than trying to come across as an oversmart douche.
3. Rule of 3 days
The 3-day rule of calling up a woman after a first date is so outdated and medieval. It doesn’t make any sense to wait for so long just for the sake of being a tease. If you are interested in her and you feel she is too, be a man and make the first move for the second date. As simple as that.
4. Pay the bill each time
Chivalry is picking up the tab for the first few dates. After that you ought to go dutch; if she offers to pay her half, let her do so. Unless you are a millionaire, in which case you wouldn’t really be reading this, you will go bankrupt funding her.
5. Be a shoulder to cry on
Women love men who listen to them but there’s a difference between listening and becoming the perennial shoulder on which she cries her heart out. If you don’t start talking about better stuff, related to yourself, then you will find yourself friend-zoned. It’s a space wherein the girl has mentally compartmentalized you as a dear friend in need and nothing more. Be a man who shows her the joys of being with you and not a woman who solely listens and comforts others.
6. Be mushy and romantic
Girls like a guy who has a romantic side to him, true. But they get grossed out and would maintain their distance from a guy who starts to get mushy and romantic right after the first date. You have to be like a friend, not a best friend mind you, and get to know her better before starting out slowly with the lovey-dovey talks.
7. Indulge in negging and not complimenting
Bros have a habit of giving this stupid piece of adavice to each other. Yes, women are complicated creatures and sometimes it may feel like the good guys really do finish last, however that doesn’t mean you become a jerk for women don’t like them either. They want a man who will compliment her in a limit so that it sounds genuine. Negging, which is the art of putting women down and making them feel insecure, doesn’t always have the opposite effect. Confident women may insult you and walk out if you start to make them feel insecure.
