It is never easy to deal with lies, betrayal and cheating. If you are faced with a situation wherein the love of your life has indulged in infidelity, don’t react spontaneously; instead think about these pointers so that you are well equipped to deal with your partner.
1. Know the reason
Ask your partner the important question of intent. Why did she cheat? Was it a momentary mistake or something deeper? Was it because you were lacking something that the other guy had? Know the reason, albeit in a calm and composed way.
2. Be calm
The more threatening you seem, the more likely she is to lie and not reveal the truth. Don’t explode into a flood of emotions by crying, shouting, throwing things around or going into a shell. Maintain your composure and relax your mind; this is very important to do, no matter how tough it may seem at that moment. You surely don’t want to do something you will regret later, do you?
3. Discuss the next step
Discuss this issue with your partner and say what you feel. Give her a chance to say why she did so and what she feels about the whole situation. Ask yourself as well as her what the next step should be. Accordingly, decide whether to call off the relationship or carry on.
4. Mull over the pros and cons
Take some time alone to deal with this by yourself. Think over the pros and cons of your relationship. If your partner is repentant and asking for forgiveness, are you willing to overlook this as a minor obstacle and accept her again? Or are you going to have trust issues time and again? Is it better for you, emotionally, financially and physically to continue this relationship or are you feeling she may cheat again? Think over these questions carefully and do what your heart tells you.
5. Don’t discuss with others
Don’t make this unfortunate incident fodder for other’s gossip. You will only be inviting sympathy for yourself and curses for her. Discussing this situation with the person closest to you besides your partner is fine, but don’t divulge it to others, as it will only have negative repercussions.
6. Go for counseling
If you find things going out of hand and you are not able to be in control, it’s advisable to go in for a couple counseling session. Professional help could prove useful for the two of you to understand what to do about the relationship.
1. Know the reason
Ask your partner the important question of intent. Why did she cheat? Was it a momentary mistake or something deeper? Was it because you were lacking something that the other guy had? Know the reason, albeit in a calm and composed way.
2. Be calm
The more threatening you seem, the more likely she is to lie and not reveal the truth. Don’t explode into a flood of emotions by crying, shouting, throwing things around or going into a shell. Maintain your composure and relax your mind; this is very important to do, no matter how tough it may seem at that moment. You surely don’t want to do something you will regret later, do you?
3. Discuss the next step
Discuss this issue with your partner and say what you feel. Give her a chance to say why she did so and what she feels about the whole situation. Ask yourself as well as her what the next step should be. Accordingly, decide whether to call off the relationship or carry on.
4. Mull over the pros and cons
Take some time alone to deal with this by yourself. Think over the pros and cons of your relationship. If your partner is repentant and asking for forgiveness, are you willing to overlook this as a minor obstacle and accept her again? Or are you going to have trust issues time and again? Is it better for you, emotionally, financially and physically to continue this relationship or are you feeling she may cheat again? Think over these questions carefully and do what your heart tells you.
5. Don’t discuss with others
Don’t make this unfortunate incident fodder for other’s gossip. You will only be inviting sympathy for yourself and curses for her. Discussing this situation with the person closest to you besides your partner is fine, but don’t divulge it to others, as it will only have negative repercussions.
6. Go for counseling
If you find things going out of hand and you are not able to be in control, it’s advisable to go in for a couple counseling session. Professional help could prove useful for the two of you to understand what to do about the relationship.
