Fights over issues of trust and transparency can be common between partners in a relationship. But if these recurring fights are not controlled, they can get out of hand. Here are a few ways in which you can get over trust issues in your relationship.
1. Define what trust means to both of you
One of the most important things you need to do is establish the definition of trust between you and your girlfriend. Your girlfriend may think differently about trust than you. Tell your girlfriend what you mean by trust. Create a common understanding about maintaining transparency in your relationship with her so that you both are on the same page.
2. Avoid accusations and blame games
The bridge between you and your girlfriend could crumble to bits if you begin to blame and argue with each other over trust issues. It may be natural to do so initially, but you both must eventually create a congenial atmosphere to be able to communicate openly. The minute you or your girlfriend begin to play blame games, all communication lines may shut down.
3. Support each other in saying the truth
Supporting each other to tell the truth can become a critical factor to get over trust issues in your relationship. You may motivate each other to never lie but when either of you actually does so, you must be supportive. If you both lose your temper when either of you takes the courage to rebuild trust and say the truth, it may become very difficult to solve trust related problems.
4. Give each other a few chances
Rebuilding trust in a relationship is not a feat that can be accomplished overnight. It can take a lifetime to build trust but a few minutes to break it. Give each other a few chances to gain each other’s trust back, irrespective of who is at fault. If you expect it to happen in a jiffy, you may be disappointed.
5. Avoid negative repercussions for lies and betrayal
Negativity, punishment and harsh repercussions hold no place in the process of getting over trust issues in a relationship. Don’t force each other to go in a shell by creating pressure of punishment. If you or your girlfriend have betrayed each other’s trust, you will need positivity, support and patience to rebuild trust, not heavy handed repercussions.
6. Be prepared for doubt and suspicion at every step
Once either of you has betrayed the other’s trust, doubt and suspicion are likely to surface in your relationship. While you can’t expect such feelings to go away entirely, you may have to manage them and channelize them in the right way. Don’t allow doubt and suspicion to dominate your relationship. That is the key to getting over trust issues in a smooth manner.
7. Be tolerant, accepting and forgiving of each other
No relationship is likely to be completely free of trust issues. Reassure yourself with the fact that everyone faces trust problems and you are not the only one fighting the battle. Be tolerant, accepting and forgiving towards your girlfriend and allow her to feel the same way for you. Every time you feel that you are losing your temper over a trivial trust issue, mentally ask yourself to calm down and refrain from saying anything until your temper has subsided.
1. Define what trust means to both of you
One of the most important things you need to do is establish the definition of trust between you and your girlfriend. Your girlfriend may think differently about trust than you. Tell your girlfriend what you mean by trust. Create a common understanding about maintaining transparency in your relationship with her so that you both are on the same page.
2. Avoid accusations and blame games
The bridge between you and your girlfriend could crumble to bits if you begin to blame and argue with each other over trust issues. It may be natural to do so initially, but you both must eventually create a congenial atmosphere to be able to communicate openly. The minute you or your girlfriend begin to play blame games, all communication lines may shut down.
3. Support each other in saying the truth
Supporting each other to tell the truth can become a critical factor to get over trust issues in your relationship. You may motivate each other to never lie but when either of you actually does so, you must be supportive. If you both lose your temper when either of you takes the courage to rebuild trust and say the truth, it may become very difficult to solve trust related problems.
4. Give each other a few chances
Rebuilding trust in a relationship is not a feat that can be accomplished overnight. It can take a lifetime to build trust but a few minutes to break it. Give each other a few chances to gain each other’s trust back, irrespective of who is at fault. If you expect it to happen in a jiffy, you may be disappointed.
5. Avoid negative repercussions for lies and betrayal
Negativity, punishment and harsh repercussions hold no place in the process of getting over trust issues in a relationship. Don’t force each other to go in a shell by creating pressure of punishment. If you or your girlfriend have betrayed each other’s trust, you will need positivity, support and patience to rebuild trust, not heavy handed repercussions.
6. Be prepared for doubt and suspicion at every step
Once either of you has betrayed the other’s trust, doubt and suspicion are likely to surface in your relationship. While you can’t expect such feelings to go away entirely, you may have to manage them and channelize them in the right way. Don’t allow doubt and suspicion to dominate your relationship. That is the key to getting over trust issues in a smooth manner.
7. Be tolerant, accepting and forgiving of each other
No relationship is likely to be completely free of trust issues. Reassure yourself with the fact that everyone faces trust problems and you are not the only one fighting the battle. Be tolerant, accepting and forgiving towards your girlfriend and allow her to feel the same way for you. Every time you feel that you are losing your temper over a trivial trust issue, mentally ask yourself to calm down and refrain from saying anything until your temper has subsided.
