When it comes to relationships—and to reigniting the spark—it’s the little things that count. Which is why, each week, we’ll share an easy way to reconnect with your significant other. No big-budget vacations or vow renewals required—just real-life ways to make the most of a weekend, an hour, or a commercial break.
If I asked you to list 10 things you’d put on your bucket list—a list of things you want to do before you, as the elegant saying goes, “kick the bucket”—could you list them? What if I asked you for 10 things your significant other would put on theirs? How about the things you wish you could do together someday…have you shared those with each other?
If you answered no or ummm to any of those, you’re in luck, because this Relationship Reboot will change that in about an hour. Send the kids to an extra violin lesson, silence your cell phone (don’t let me catch it on vibrate), and put a sock on the door. Now all you need is a pen and paper (or a shared Google document), and a bottle of wine, because why not. Get comfy on the couch and start listing—you can shout them out and jot ‘em down, or each make your own lists and create a master list from those. Don’t worry about thinking too big or too small; list everything from a trip you want to take to a food you want to try to a language you want to learn together. List all of your craziest ideas, and encourage your partner to do the same—you may be surprised at what they come up with. Most importantly, don’t NOPE! anything on each other’s lists, even and especially if it’s something that pushes your boundaries (since when did you want to quit your job to become a sheep shearer?!). Taking on a new adventure or tackling a challenge together will only bring you closer—I mean, remember when you spent the weekend assembling Ikea furniture together? You’re a stronger couple for that, so hang-gliding in the nude will be even better.
Sixty minutes later, you’ll be out a bottle of wine but you’ll be one step closer to crossing some items off the list (studies have shown that just writing down your goals makes you more likely to achieve them)…and I’m betting you’ll have learned at least one thing you never knew about your partner. I mean, really, sheep-shearing?