You aren’t part of the family (at least not yet, anyway) so the role you’re playing on this day is as guest—not host, and certainly not guest of honor.
She may not be your future mother-in-law (yet) but rest assured the woman who birthed the guy you’re now dating still has a strong influence on his life. Should he invite you to join them in celebrating Mother’s Day, follow these tips and you may find a place in her heart as well:
1. This Day Is About Her And Him, Not Him And You
Let him choose where to take her, and what you’ll be doing once you get there. Remember: on this day, you aren’t a princess; you’re just one of the courtiers. (And NOT the court jester!)
2. Let Her Have Her Way
Typically, holidays are family events. You aren’t part of the family (at least not yet, anyway) so the role you’re playing on this day is as guest—not host, and certainly not guest of honor.
3. Come Bearing Gifts
No, she’s not your mother, but she is someone near and dear to him. Bringing a little something—flowers, chocolates, or some personal memento she’ll appreciate—demonstrates that you recognize the significance of her role in his life, and that you appreciate it, and her.
4. Be On Your A Game
Smile. Laugh. Be your typically generous self. More to the point, be someone who she may someday feel comfortable calling “friend.” She knows her son has great taste. She loves seeing evidence of this, which is why he was so proud to bring you along.
Josie Brown’s latest novel is The Housewife Assassin’s Handbook. Her book, Secret Lives of Husbands and Wives, will soon be a dramatic series on ABC TV.