2. Choose Your Response:
If you cannot relate to the origin of your stress, you can definitely alter your response strategy. Depending upon the type of stress, you can either shake it off or face it. In order to determine the direction of your response consider the following questions:
• Does stressing over it really matter in the long run? With an impending deadline on your shoulders and huge expectations from your superiors, you might fret a lot to deliver your best. But does stressing over it, make your performance any better?
• How much can you control the situation? You cannot control the rain ruining your daughter’s outdoor birthday party, but you can control how best you choose to finish the presentation for work tomorrow.
• Is the source of your stress in the near or distant past? You cannot control or change things that have already happened. So losing sleep over them is futile. Instead, living your present and being prepared for your future is something within your reach.
4. Shake It Off:
If a situation is truly beyond your control, you need to find ways to shake off your stress. Here’s how:
• Breathe: Close your eyes. Inhale deeply through your nose. Count to 5. Exhale through your mouth. Repeat till you feel the negative energy draining off your body.
• Distract Yourself: Think about the things that make you happy. Think about cars. Think about your partner. Visualise yourself on a beach in Goa – the sun on your face, the wind in your hair, and the ocean kissing your feet. You will feel better instantly. Take a drive out on a quiet and long stretch of road. Physically removing yourself from stress will help view your situation in proper perspective.
* Exercise: Sometimes a quick workout helps when nothing else works. Take a swim, go for a jog, do some yoga. The body and mind get into combat mode when working out, and the body releases stabilising hormones that normalise stress and make you feel invigorated.