As long as your beau’s friends aren’t encouraging him to step outside of the confines of your commitment then it should be a welcomed breath of fresh air.
Is your man out with the fellas a bit too much? Do they go on more man-dates than you go on real dates? Working out at the gym, watching games at the bar, other random man things that you have no idea about… sound familiar? These symptoms could mean that your guy is involved in a serious bromance!
According to Wikepedia.com “bromance” is described as, “A bromance is a close but non-sexual relationship between two (or more) men, a form of homosocial intimacy.” In short, bromance is nothing more than camaraderie amongst men. Truly this is really nothing to be afraid of, however, when it becomes a hindrance to your relationship there are a few things you can do to solve this pesky problem. Below are a 4 ways to battle the bromance:
Understand that this isn’t the end of the world - there are much worse things that could plague your relationship. Accept that your man has a life outside of your relationship and that it’s completely healthy and natural for him to do so. As long as your beau’s friends aren’t encouraging him to step outside of the confines of your commitment then it should be a welcomed breath of fresh air.
While he’s out with his friends, get back to doing what you didn’t have time to do when he was lounging around the house! Maybe it’s perfecting a new dish or getting back to weekly happy hours with your girls - taking time to rediscover your personal interests is a great way to get your mind off of your relationship. Wouldn’t it be more fun to dish with your friends than sit at home and mope about your man enjoying his? Many times women loose themselves in their relationship, so take a moment to just relax and get back to you!
Though friendships independent of your relationship are necessary for sanity there should never be a time where you feel insecure about your partnership. If there does in fact come a time where your men’s friendships leave you a bit shaken ask yourself why. Are you insecure about yourself or your relationship? Is it something that he’s actively doing to make you feel this way? How can the situation be resolved? How can you trust your man and allow him to have a life outside of your partnership?
Should the bromance take a turn for the worse, speak up and let your concerns be known. If his friends are turning him against you or attacking your relationship through their actions (i.e. excessive trips to the strip club) then say something to your partner. Let him know that you don’t appreciate his friends’ negative actions, tell him you that you’re hurt, and give examples of why you feel this way. Stating your case will make him more likely to have an open heart and mind while listening to your grievances and not to be defensive about his friendship.
At the end of the day, bromance is a funny term for something that can either be a revitalizing break from your mate or a less than savory experience and uphill battle with his boys. If the latter is the case, be sure to check yourself before stirring the pot – analyze where your concerns are based and how the problem can be fixed. If it’s not really big issues then just soak it up and enjoy your time with your gal pals!