How many people do you know
who are single after teens? I am sure not many. It seems these days everyone is
falling and falling apart in love. Proposals, relationships, affairs, break up
and depression has become a regular affair and the important part is that all
of these is affecting the lifestyle and the mental state of people. Nowadays,
to be in a relationship is as important as being alive. If you are still
single, your friends will find you the 'good friend'.
So, when everyone is falling
into love, what is the reason for so many unsuccessful relationship? The answer
is the quest between deciding whether you are in infatuation or love. When you
start liking a person of the opposite sex the most difficult thing to decide is
whether it's infatuation or love. Here is the solution to your confusion of
it's infatuation or love -
1.Infatuation is the result
of the flow of the chemical called dopamine. Dopamine erupts a feeling of
elation. A state of extreme excitement. If you are struck by infatuation you
will want to cling to that person more. Infatuation soon dies out and you tend
to get bored within a few days of time.
Love on the other hand is a
much more calm process. It is a mature feeling, which does not make you cling
to the person. It takes time to emerge and is a feeling of stability and
attachment. It enhances with time and brings two people closer.
2.Infatuation does not
support disagreement. When two people are infatuated, they want to agree on
every point. Disagreements often become the main reason to burst the day dream.
Love on the other hand is all
about understanding. Arguments do happen but it is a very trivial reason to
quit the relationship. In love, you come to an agreement rather than live with
the problem.
3.Infatuation is never a
commitment. Once the elation stars drooping, commitment also droops.
Infatuation does not like binding. You don't want to submit to the other
person.
The base of love is commitment.
If you are in love, you are committed. You want to be with the same person all
your life and plan your future. Love is a promise which two people make to each
other and never break.
4.Infatuation usually starts
from the looks. It can also be called a serious crush. It's the sudden
excitement which the girl feels when the most handsome guy in college comes and
talks to her or what a guy feels when a beautiful girl smiles at him. Thus,
starts their friendship and then they are struck by infatuation.
Love on the other hand
touches the heart. When mentality of two people match, their thought process
jell with each other and their emotions are well matched, it can be said that
they are in love.
5.In infatuation passion for
each other is the source of attraction. And in love emotions play the most
important part. In the former, there is lack of patience and meeting one's lust
in on priority but in the latter the main motive is to work towards a secure and
settled future.
Love is a much more serious
affair than infatuation and the latter is the easy road to fun and happiness.
Thus, most of us are infatuated which we think as love. Be it infatuation or
love, in both cases our emotions are at stake. So, what are you in, infatuation
or love?
