One of the hardest things for any man is letting go of a relationship that’s not meant to be. Men in bad relationships are often attached to the illusion that this particular woman is “the One” for us, and that if we don’t have him or her, we’ll never find somebody new or no other woman will ever want us.
Many men remain in disappointing, hurtful relationships for months, even years with the false beliefs that "all women act like this"or "this is as good as it's going to get." If you ever expect to have real happiness and experience true love, you first have to learn to love yourself, stop expecting other people to give you the love and acceptance you deserve and let go of unhealthy attachments to bad women and bad situations. Wasting precious time with the wrong woman will only leave you bitter, and that bitterness will poison relationships with your family, children and any potential relationships you may have with actual good women in the future.
It is not selfish to meet your own needs--in fact, when you finally build up the courage to let go of painful relationships with the manipulative women, you will begin to feel freedom and contentment and begin taking better care of yourself. Having an optimistic outlook, positive attitude and belief that the best is yet to come can help you bounce back from the worst of relationships.
If you just got out of a relationship but are harboring a lot of resentment against your ex or against women in general, NOW is not the time to start dating again! If you're in this situation you first have to examine what patterns you keep repeating in your relationships and why you have tendencies to be with life sucking women with a ton of emotional baggage who mean you no good. Learn to identify your patterns, and the unhealthy beliefs that are causing them.
Don't beat yourself up over all the time you “wasted” with the wrong woman and realize that it didn't work because it was not meant to be. Learning from the bad experiences and moving on from a relationship will allow you to progress to the next level in your new relationships as you find the right woman. Remember, you have to lighten your load and heal your pain before you can begin meeting new women.