Of all the great advancements in 21st Century technology, nothing has help shift the battle of the sexes more than TEXTING. Unlike the old-fashioned “telephone call,” text affords men the opportunity to carefully calculate exactly what we want to say before we ever say ANYTHING.
Make them count
Although how many guys have glanced down at their smartphones and wondered, “How do I text a girl?” Well … we have an answer for that. There is a specific text blueprint that will allow you to text women effortlessly. Whether you want to set up a date or just stay on a girl’s radar, the road to success is paved with your thumbs!
For our purposes, texting a woman moves through three distinct phases: pre-dating, dating, and post-dating. In other words, there are girls you’re trying to meet up with (pre-dating), girls you’re meeting up with (dating), and girls you’re trying to meet up with again (post-dating).
Let’s look at the basic mindsets of each phase!
How to Text a Girl: Pre-dating
Before you’ve had your first date with a girl, she won’t feel much of a connection to you. As unfortunate as it may be, you’re probably not the only guy texting her. You can be, however, the only guy who is texting her intelligently.
See, a common mistake most guys make when they’re texting a girl is that they mistake responses for attraction. Often when a guy is getting a response from a girl, he believes that he’s getting closer to getting her on a date or to seducing her.
The exact opposite is true!
The more texts you send before meeting up with girl means the less of a chance you have of actually meeting up with her! That’s right: even if a girl is RESPONDING to your texts, you’re not getting yourself ANY closer to actually getting her out on a date.
Instead, say more with less. Whenever you’re considering what to text a girl, see if you say it simpler, with less text. Most guys send pointless texts to women like, “How’s your day?” or “Enjoying the warm weather?” These texts DO NOT bring you ANY closer to a woman! They just beg for a response (which doesn’t mean anything).
To make sure you NEVER again waste texts on pointless chatter, ask yourself this golden question:
How is this text bringing this girl and I closer to a date?
If your answer is simply “to get her to know her better,” erase the text. It’s not going to help you.
How to Text a Girl: Dating
Lets say that you’ve now succeeded in getting up a date with a girl. You may think you’re home free when it comes to texting, but there’s still some things you need to keep in mind to ensure you CONTINUE to see your girls.
First, you never want to fall into predictable patterns. Lots of guys use the same jokes, same questions, and same texts over and over. While it may be easier to fall into “complacency” with a woman you’re dating, don’t do it!
Instead, break things up with some spicy ever once in a while. Tell her you have a “surprise” to show her later. Tell her something reminded you of her, but don’t tell her what it is right away. Ask her to send you a funny picture of something (or send her a funny picture of something).
Keep her guessing what your text will be and you’ll keep her interested in you. Moreover, keeping the “spark” of a relationship alive is very important when it comes to creating a great sex life.
As long as you don’t become ultra predictable, you should have your girl texting YOU asking YOU when you’re available to hang out.
How to Text a Girl: Post-Dating
It happens to the best of us: we break up with a girl and wonder how we’re going to get her back. Now, obviously, the best attempts at getting an ex back happen away from the phone in (gasp!) real life! But when you have no other options, text is not the worst way to go about things.
The cardinal rule of texting an ex is never, ever beg or sound upset or sad. As such, avoid texting your ex when drunk or upset. In fact, the best times to text your ex are the exact opposite of those times: when you’re out having fun!
Now, this isn’t to say that you should try to brag or rub your good times in your ex’s face. But you should convey the impression that you’re enjoying your life with or without her. This way, she’ll be more inclined to reconsider her decision not to be with you.
Getting your ex back over text is an grueling ordeal, but keeping these pointers in mind can get the ball rolling!