What makes a couple happy? Well, for starters, these 12 things happy couples talk about can make all the difference between happy love and a bad romance!
One of the best things about being in a relationship is having someone to talk to about everything that crosses your mind.
When you are in a happy relationship, it may seem as though there is nothing that you and your partner don’t discuss.
But then again, there are some topics of conversation that you may find yourselves repeating rather often.
Happy couples have some of the richest conversations, because the
topics can stretch from the past, to the present, and look forward into
the future together.
These conversations are rich and meaningful *even if they just seem
silly or trivial!* and indicate that your relationship will continue to
be a source of happiness for a long time.
Happy couples and the 3 stages of conversations
What are the things that happy couples talk about? We’ve listed out
twelve of the most common conversation topics for happy couples.
If these conversations sound like the ones that you have with your
partner via text during the day, over a late-night supper, or during a
long car trip, you can be confident that you are doing your relationship
right, and progressing together as a happy couple, in the right
direction!
Happy couples talk about the past
#1 Fond memories. The best part of being a happy couple is
that you have happy memories to look back on. Reminiscing with your
partner is an excellent way to remember the fantastic times that both of
you have shared together, and reminds you why you love each other.
#2 Childhood. Filling your significant other in on
parts of your childhood helps them to understand where you have come
from and why you are the way you are. These stories also knit together
not just the two of you, but also the other important family members in
your lives.
Sharing these parts of yourself can make a relationship deeper and
more meaningful, and childhood experiences often make for the most
fantastic of stories!
#3 Bittersweet memories. While happy memories may be
the most fun to talk about, the hard things that you’ve crossed paths
with often explain more about your personality than anything else. By
sharing these conversations with your partner, you are demonstrating
trust *chances are, some of these memories are the ones you hold closest
to your heart*, and also showing them a more emotional side of
yourself.
Bittersweet memories often include the people, lessons, and
experiences that you hold the most dear to you and sharing them with
your partner brings the two of you much closer together.
#4 Obstacles you have overcome. Even the happiest
couples have had to overcome hard times and misunderstandings. However,
just because these fights or misunderstandings have long since been
solved doesn’t mean that you never discuss them again. By talking over
the past struggles, happy couples are able to learn from the past by
identifying patterns and behaviors that need to be repaired or modified
in their relationships.
Happy couples talk about the present
#5 Their feelings. One of the most important factors in the
communication of happy couples is their ability to share their feelings
honestly with each other. By keeping your partner attuned to how you
feel, they would be in a better position to judge their own actions and
reactions. And at the same time, communicating about feelings always
increases the clarity of your communications.
#6 Their day and their daily lives. In today’s world, it is
rare that couples are able to spend all day together. Happy couples are
able to lead separate lives, but make a point of filling each other in
on what they’ve accomplished or endured during the day.
By communicating the day-to-day events of their lives, happy couples
are able to understand each other better. Knowing the little details of
your partner’s job or hearing about all the people they interact with
everyday shows interest in all parts of your partner’s life, not just
the time spent beside you.
#7 Inside jokes. There is nothing more hilarious than
being able to make your significant other laugh hysterically by saying a
single word or making a certain face. Having jokes that only the two of
you understand brings you closer together and gives you a surefire way
to survive boring dinner parties or work functions!
The best part about inside jokes is that they have a tendency to grow
more humorous over time – and no one else will understand why the two
of you have tears of laughter rolling down your face.
#8 Individual preferences. Happy couples have no difficulty
communicating their preferences – favorite kinds of movies, music, or
evenings out. Being honest, and trusting that your partner will love you
anyways is incredibly important to creating a happy and healthy
relationship.
After all, if you feel that you have to constantly hide parts of
yourself from your boyfriend, girlfriend or your spouse, you will never
be fully comfortable and confident with your significant other. Happy
couples trust that their relationship is strong enough to handle honest
discussions about preferred activities, events, or entertainment.
#9 Embarrassing moments
Embarrassing moments can be some of the most mortifying parts of your
life, but they can also be some of the most ridiculous ones too! Being
able to share funny stories that don’t always cast you in the best light
is a sign that you trust your partner completely and know that they
will love you no matter what.
Sharing embarrassing moments is a great chance to laugh with your
significant other, and to stop taking yourself seriously. It can be
incredibly endearing to hear about the times you have both made fools
out of yourselves, and that will bring the two of you closer together.
Happy couples talk about the future
#10 Plans. When you are in a happy relationship, any big
decision is discussed between the two of you before any steps are taken.
This shows respect for each other and a desire to include the other
person in decisions that will affect the both of you.
Happy couples make plans together, especially if the decisions are
hard ones that will have an impact on the relationship, but they also
talk about the small things like planning a dinner out with a friend.
Asking for your significant other’s input about the plans you make even
on an individual level, shows your respect for them and the appreciation
of their opinions.
#11 Hopes. Happy couples make sure that their conversations
include discussions about what they hope will happen in the future.
These discussions might be about what you hope will happen in your
relationship specifically, or what you hope will happen professionally.
While having a strict 5-year-plan is not the solution for many
relationships, having a good understanding of what both partners expect
from their future, both as partners in the relationship or marriage, and
individually, always helps communication in love.
Having a basic understanding of what they are hopefully moving
towards as a couple is important for happy couples, and ensures that
both partners will be able to stay happy as the relationship moves
forwards.
#12 Dreams. The best part of being with someone who you trust
completely is that you can share your biggest dreams with them. These
dreams can be as serious or as silly as you want, but trusting your
significant other with these things that you hold close to your heart is
the key for happy couples.
It is easy to be jealous of happy couples that seem to have
everything figured out and still have unlimited topics of conversations
all the time.
But with a little effort, trust and communication, you can have these conversations in your own love life too.
And the best thing about these conversations in your own relationship
*regardless of how happy you currently are*, is the fact that it’ll
strengthen and build a happier relationship. After all, these
conversation topics demonstrate honesty, enjoyment of each other’s
company, and mutual respect – the best building blocks for any
relationship.
So how many of these 12 things happy couples talk about do you
indulge in, in your own relationship, a few or all of them? The answer
can reveal just how happy you are, and just how much happier you can be!
