We’ve all heard those old couples who have been together 50 years tell us to marry our best friend, but how much truth is there to that theory?
The person you marry is a big deal. Ginormous, actually. You are
choosing someone to not only spend the rest of your life with, but
someone who will care for you and someone with whom you can build a
life.
That’s why we spend, well, our entire lives, searching for “the one.”
The one that will make us happy forever. The one that will be there for
us through the rest of our life stages. The one that will give half of
themselves, forever.
So, you want to make sure you actually like them, right? Well, duh!
That’s why whenever you interview an old couple who have been together
for decades, they usually mention something about their spouse being
their best friend.
But should you really marry your best friend?
Now, I’m not talking about your childhood best friend who is the same
gender as you–unless you’re into that, in that case go for it—but I’m
talking about someone who has come into your life later and is now your
best friend. Oh, and they just so happen to be your preferred gender for
a life-long partner.
My best friend and I—who is a male—have an ongoing joke that if we
both fail at finding our “true love” in the next ten years, we’ll get
married. Our reasoning is we both want kids but don’t want to be too old
to have them and that, well, we’re best friends! So what could possibly
go wrong?
But if you really do some deep thinking, does it actually make sense
to marry your best friend? Should you really spend your entire life with
that person? Each person and situation is different. Here are the
reasons you should marry your best friend.
YES! You should!
After doing some serious thinking, I have figured out if you and your
best friend fall under the following categories, you should definitely
get married.
#1 You love them. Obviously, love is an important
factor when it comes to marriage. If they’re truly your best friend,
then you love them already! The real question comes when you start to
think about if you’re “in love” with them. There is a difference.
Sometimes you can be in love with your best friend without even
realizing it. It might just hit you like a truck someday. If you realize
this sooner rather than later, you should marry your best friend.
#2 You trust them with your life. Trust is the most
important thing in any relationship, but especially in a marriage. You
have to really trust your partner with everything—including your life.
If you know you can trust them this way, you should marry them.
#3 You have similar life goals. Futures have to
align with the person you could potentially end up marrying. If one of
you wants to travel the world for 10 years before settling down and the
other is ready to buy a house and start their life, it won’t work.
Make sure you both have similar long-term life goals. If you do, it’s a good sign you should marry your best friend.
#4 You have similar morals. You and your spouse need
to have the same or similar morals. You can’t live with someone who
disagrees about what is right and wrong in the world. How would you both
raise children? If this is the two of you, you should marry this
person.
#5 Your religious views are understood. I personally
don’t think that two people have to have similar religious views in
order to make a marriage work. As long as those views are understood and
accepted long before the big ceremony, you’re in the clear.
#6 You argue. And I mean really argue about the
important things. If you can get into some deep and heated arguments
with your best friend and still respect them and their opinions, you
should marry them. That’s not something you find in a lot of people.
Take it where you get it!
#7 You both have similar parenting style goals. If
you two talk about the way you want to raise your kids and you agree
with about 80% of what they’re saying, you should marry them. You have
to have similar styles of parenting if you’re going to marry someone.
And most importantly, you both want kids.
#8 They bring out different sides of you. They can
bring about the good, the bad, the happy, the sad, and even your
weirdest side. You need to marry someone who can do this in order to
have a happy marriage.
#9 You can be yourself around them. The most
important thing in any life partner, you have to be able to be yourself
with them. If this is your best friend, marry them.
#10 You’re physically attracted to them. Oftentimes,
when two people are best friends but have never gone that extra step to
be a couple, it’s because of a physical attraction barrier. One person
might think the other is attractive but the other person might not be
interested.
However, in order to make a long-lasting, happy marriage, you have to
be sexually attracted to them. After all, you will be sleeping with
only them for the rest of your life.
#11 You are comfortable with their family. If you
think of their family as a second family already, then you know you’ll
feel right at home if you marry them. This is definitely a sign that you
and your best friend should get hitched!
#12 You can’t imagine your life without them. If you
can’t imagine being without this person in your life, then the best way
to do this is to marry them. That way they’ll always be with you.
#13 You’ve always secretly thought about it. Whether you want to admit it or not, you’ve thought about marrying your best friend
before. As much as the two of you claim to be “just friends,” there is a
tiny part of you that has pictured it before—which means there’s a part
of you that actually wants it.
#14 You can talk to them about anything without feeling judged. And I mean anything.
If you feel like you can go to them with any issues—big or small—and
they’ll listen with the same amount of attention no matter what it is,
you should marry them.
That’s a quality you want to have in a future spouse due to them
being your go-to person for the rest of your life. If your spouse judges
you at every turn, who can you really turn to?
#15 You feel your best when you’re with them. You
feel more confident, happier, more relaxed, and just good whenever
you’re around them. This is extremely important when finding a partner
for life. If your best friend is this for you, you should marry them.
#16 You talk about them. All. The. Time. I mean
seriously, it’s probably annoying how much you talk about your best
friend. It means you want to brag about them and share their life with
others as if it was your own.
#17 They’ve always been a part of your long-term plans.
If you’re already planning your long-distance future with them as a
part of it, you should marry your best friend. Wanting them there
through all of your big life changes and picturing them there means you
should marry them.
#18 Each other’s happiness is more important. Having
a best friend you care about more than yourself is not something to
take lightly. If their happiness is more important to you than your own,
put a ring on it.
#19 No one is good enough for them and vice versa.
You both have issues with each other’s exes and don’t believe anyone is
good enough for them. This is a huge sign you should marry your best
friend. You probably have had feelings for them for a long time if this
comes to your mind every time they start dating someone new.
#20 You know each other better than anyone else. If
you can tell someone else their entire life story better than they can,
you’ve found someone you should spend your life with. It’s one thing to
know all of the big parts, but it’s another to know all the small
details no one else would ever guess.
Your spouse should be your best friend no matter what. But if
you’re debating whether or not your current best friend should be your
lover for life, these signs will help you figure it out.
