You’ve gone on a couple of dates, and it’s been great. But how can you know if you’ll eventually go from just “dating” to relationship territory?
At first, dating around may be fun, with the exciting phases of
getting to know each other. But after a while, dating gets tedious, and
going out with the second or third person in a week seems annoying more
than anything. Expenses pile up, and no matter what you do, it seems
like you’re never going to find the right person.
That is, until you find someone that makes you want to read an
article like this. After all, that’s why you’re here, isn’t it? Not to
worry, after reading this, you’ll have a clearer perspective on whether
or not you two are headed towards being in a relationship.
What are ten of the best signs you’ll end up in a relationship?
Though the only sure way to know if you’ll get into a serious
relationship with the person you’re dating is when one of you ultimately
asks, there are still some signs you should look out for, so you don’t
get caught off guard.
#1 No awkward silences. Perhaps the most overrated
reason of all, but it’s true. When you find that person that makes every
conversation exciting or fun, that’s a great sign. Nothing should be
awkward. And if there are lapses in conversation, the silence is
genuinely comfortable.
#2 You make each other laugh by just being yourselves. Not
only does this imply you both feel comfortable enough to not put on a
show, it also means you’re compatible, with a similar sense of humor,
and the ability to bring each other joy.
#3 There’s genuine interest on both sides. Captain
Obvious, sure, but a lot of people forget what this feels like. After
dating around for a while, you become jaded. Maybe you haven’t shown
genuine interest in a long time. Or maybe that special person is showing
interest, but you’re skeptical because nothing seems to work for you.
If you’re past the polite, “let me make the best of this and not ever
see them again after tonight” situation, you’ll know that you’re in it
not out of politeness, but of genuine interest.
#4 You two always schedule another date. If you guys have been on more than one date already, and you always make a plan for next time, that’s a very good sign. For those who don’t, don’t worry. Oftentimes, it’s just a schedule thing. Everyone is busy in this day and age.
As long as you two talk after dates and make a plan to go out again,
that’s a pretty good sign that you’re getting closer to getting serious.
What’s even better is when you both are direct and simply say “Hey, my
work schedule is crazy this week, but if I get an opening, can I see you
again?”
#5 There’s a weird level of comfort that surpasses the butterflies. If
you two are nervous, but always seem to get into this weird,
comfortable state together as the night progresses, that’s a sign things
are going well. If you guys talk about a variety of topics and are
comfortable around each other, don’t mistake it for being in each
other’s friend zone. Chances are, it’s much, much more than that.
#6 The cliché, phones don’t exist. Putting it
simply, no one goes anywhere without their phones anymore. If you are so
intrigued by each other that you both set your phones down and talk,
it’s the biggest compliment you can receive or give. It’s a matter of
what’s more entertaining. And you’re both winning.
#7 You could be doing the most interesting of things, or be
in the most interesting of places, and yet, you’re still more interested
in each other. Sounds hard to do, but when you find the right
person, there could be a man on fire running around you, and you’ll
still be more interested in what the other has to say. Whatever the
case, you’re either blind to the world around you, or you’re both
enjoying the world together.
#8 The flirting is obvious, but not trashy. Contrary
to what’s become the norm, flirting isn’t always meant to be overly
sexual and direct. Flirting should start off innocently enough as an
involuntary byproduct of attraction. In time, it can build up to sexual
tension where you both can’t get enough of each other.
If you’ve had that evolution happen over the course of a couple of
dates, then chances are, both of you are in it for the long haul.
Flirting that progresses too quickly into the sexual realm may mean that
one or both of you are only in it to get laid, and not to be in a
relationship.
#9 Your body language changes when you’re together. Body
language says a lot about a person. At first you may be very conscious
of how you sit or where you put your hands. However, in time, you may
realize that you’re taking on a more comfortable stance.
Once you’ve gotten past the comfortable stance, you’ll find
yourselves gravitating towards each other, with a brush of the fingers
here and a nudge of the thigh there. If these initial touches are
comfortable, they can build up to an investment that’s more than just
physical.
#10 Everyone around you gets awkward. This is the
best reason in the world. If you manage to get to the point of meeting
friends, there should be at least one instance during the night when you
both make someone, if not everyone, uncomfortable. It could be because
you both find a corner of the room to talk, or maybe you kiss in front
of everyone for the first time.
It could be that the moment feels right, and the tension can be
sliced with a knife, but some poor soul is there with you, feeling
awkward about the very obvious attraction you have for each other.
These reasons seem far too simple, but most people forget the
rule: when you find the right person, things just fall into place. The
whole dating scenario between you two should seem effortless, fun, easy,
and interesting. Stick with the simple signs, and you’ll know if you’ve
got a chance.
