Contrary to popular belief, a blissfully happy relationship isn’t a well-guarded secret. In fact, just practicing these 8 habits can make love bloom!
The secret to a happy relationship isn’t intense passion or great sex
or financial stability. In fact, it’s a little simpler than that.
The secret is forming a set of healthy habits that allow you to constantly reinforce how much you love each other’s company.
Of course, the foundations of a good relationship are trust, respect
and understanding. But these things are developed over time. The bond
you share with your significant other is strengthened by the little
things you do each day.
These seemingly trivial things are actually what hold your relationship together and prevent it from falling apart at the seams.
8 little habits that bring couples closer together
We’ve looked into what happy couples are doing, and these are the little things they do to keep their relationship alive.
#1 Having other activities to do. When you think of a
happy couple, you may visualize two people who are snuggling and
laughing together. But in reality, it also helps to spend some time
apart doing other things. Couples often bring different things into the
relationship. What they bring in is dependent on what they do when
they’re not together.
Having different interests and sharing their insights with each other
allow two people to vicariously expand their horizons through their
significant other. Sounds complicated? It’s actually pretty simple.
Take a couple where the woman’s hobby is writing music, while the guy
works as an artist. When they talk, they can each mention little facets
of their interests, and in turn, it can open their partner’s eyes to
that particular topic. It’s like a daily dose of show and tell whenever
they start talking about what they’ve been up to while they were apart.
#2 Showing appreciation. Simply saying thank you for
even the littlest things can be enough to make your partner feel loved
and appreciated. Sometimes, you can even up the ante by giving your
partner a little treat whenever he/she does something difficult. For
instance, when your partner has worked for hours to clean up the garage,
you can cook his favorite meal for dinner.
You can even insert your appreciation whenever you’re asking your
partner for something. Instead of telling your partner to do something,
you can phrase it a little differently. For example, you can say,
“Honey, I would really love it if you could please help me move the
furniture. It would really make me happy.” Simply changing the words
can be enough to make your partner feel like his help would make you
happy.
#3 Allowing your partner to vent. Every once in a
while, your partner may be overwhelmed by stress. In times like this,
don’t go naggity-nag-nag on him/her by saying, “I told you so!”
Instead, try to be a little more empathetic. Sometimes, all your partner
really needs is a person who will listen and understand. Letting off
the steam and having an understanding partner around can be enough to
help dissipate the stress.
And of course, being a little more stress-free would help your
relationship flourish even more. Whenever your partner is stressed out,
being welcoming and empathetic shows them that they’re not alone, and
that things are going to be okay. It also helps solidify your
relationship since you’re helping them out of a rough patch.
#4 A little extra effort. Going through the motions
as a couple is fine, but adding a bit of effort in the little things you
do can make all the difference. It shows your partner that you haven’t
settled and gotten too comfortable. Instead, it shows your partner that
you want to make them feel even more loved each and every day.
One way you can do this is by adding a personal touch to otherwise
typical romantic gestures. Instead of making them the usual breakfast,
make heart-shaped pancakes or add a short love note. When your partner
gets home after a tiring day, offer him/her a foot massage or a back
rub. And when your budget allows, a completely random gift can also
brighten up his/her day.
#5 Trying not to change each other. When you try to
change your partner for the better, it may come off as criticism or as a
sign that you’re not completely happy with who they are. If there’s
something you want to change about your partner, don’t force it to
happen. Instead, show him/her that by changing one of their bad habits,
they’re doing it for themselves instead of for you.
For instance, you may want your partner to eat a little healthier. At
first, you may think that getting rid of all the bacon and sweets would
be the right thing to do. But then, this would just feel like you’re
punishing your partner for liking certain unhealthy foods.
Instead, you can open them up to a whole new culinary world of
delicious veggies and lean meats. In time, they may decide that these
new foods are actually better than the processed stuff they used to
love.
#6 Not blowing problems out of proportion. As a
couple, you will face a couple of problems from time to time. These
problems can build up and turn into a full-blown argument. Instead of
heaping on other accusations and telling your partner what he/she is
lacking, try to maintain your perspective and just deal with the problem
at hand.
One common problem among many couples is forgetting some of the
chores. Tons of couples are guilty of this, but very few would admit to
it. Instead of telling your partner that you’re really mad that he/she
forgot to take the trash out again, hold your tongue and change your
tone. Say it nicely and they’ll be glad to do it. If you lash out at
them, he/she may lash back out at you and then you’ll just end up
simmering in anger at each other for the rest of the night.
#7 Having little rituals. Rituals that you do
together can help you feel more connected. Even if both of you have busy
schedules, squeezing in some time together to do your ritual helps you
bond amidst your hectic lifestyles. Spending time together is a must for
keeping your relationship solid, and it’s these rituals that serve as a
foundation.
Your rituals don’t even have to take up too much time since you can
do the simplest things together with just a few minutes to spare. For
instance, you can call each other every night right before you sleep.
Simply talking about your day can already strengthen your bond. For
couples who have a bit of time to spare, having at least one simple date
night each week can be enough.
#8 Reminiscing. Do you remember how you first met?
What were your first words to each other? What made you fall in love?
Even if you already know this story inside out, it still helps to
mention it from time to time. What this does is remind you of why you
chose to be in a relationship with your partner.
After some time, you’ll already have a full bank of memories that you
can keep coming back to. Admit it, whenever your partner brings up that
one super cheesy thing he/she did for you, you’re secretly all tingly
inside. Never let that warm fuzzy feeling fade, because it reminds you
that even though you’re not as passionate as you once were, there’s
still something about your partner that makes you feel like you’ve got
butterflies in your stomach.
It’s not the grand gestures that bring couples together and
keep love alive. Just practice these 8 simple habits in your
relationship, and you’ll see that staying in love won’t be an effort,
but something that’s as easy as falling in love.
