You find yourself the perfect match. The world suddenly goes
beautiful and you are enjoying the best days of your life. Both of you decide a
future together and plan to work it out both financially and emotionally but
then practicality strikes and your partners job demands him to shift base. This
means now you have to live miles apart from each other and get into a long
distance relationship.
Does it
sound sad and depressing? It is sad but the general believe that distance
relationship does not work, is a myth. It does work but you need to work it
out. Long distance relationship needs mature care and handling. Lets look at
how to make long distance relationship work-
1.Understand
The Situation
Don't be unreasonably against the
idea. If it is going to do good to your relationship in the long run, then
allow it to happen. Career is important even to the future of the relationship
and thus, if it demands one of the partners to go to another place, allow it.
Your unreasonable argument may bow the seed of friction in the relationship. It
is difficult but you need to accept it, understanding the need of the hour.
2.Be
Realistic Of The Duration
Be clear about the time duration for
which both of you will be apart. This gives you a reassurance psychologically
and also prevents building of false hope. The specification of duration lets
you have a hope of when you will reunite again and this hope helps in keeping
the relationship alive.
3.Communicate
Long distance relationship needs a lot more communication
than when the couple is together. When suddenly there is a distance,
communication is the only source of not letting the distance build barriers in
the relationship. Communicate everything, your feeling about the distance, your
day to day activity etc. Just the way you did when you were together. At a time
when both partners are working, they need to schedule the time they can talk
with each other. Jobs timings may not match, one of you may be in a high
profile job which takes most of your time but still don't ignore communication.
Silence in a relationship heralds the end of it.
4.Handle
Doubts
It's natural for doubt to creep in
when distance prevails between partners. Doubt on the partners loyalty. Trust
is the only way to handle it. A person drifts from the relationship only when
he does not get what he expects or when things work mechanically. Trust that
you belong to each other and no one can come in the way. You need to become the
others habit, which he cannot do away with. You can become his habit only when
you are the first person he can think of when he has something to say and he
knows you will be there to hear it.
5.Maintain
The Interest
Don't let the spark die out. It's
important that your relationship is interesting. Surprise visit, gifts, a
romantic e card etc, can keep up the interest in the relationship. These may
sound kiddish but they always work. It only helps conveying that the other is
special to you.
6.Anger
Management
When both the partners are together,
anger can be melted with just a tear, a smile and a hug but when in a long
distance relationship, anger needs a more diplomatic handling. When your
partner is angry, it is best to keep your cool. Let all his anger pour out.
When he is at his proper frame of mind, then put across your point. This will
handle the situation, clear the misunderstanding and also let the storm pass by
quickly without much harm.
7.Meet
Each Other
Make sure you are meeting each other
at intervals of two to three months. This will help you do the activities which
you did at the time when you were together. The hope of the next meeting, will
maintain the excitement and interest in the relationship.
8.
Come To A Solution Soon
Humans can take up a habit very
soon. Don't let the distance become a habit. It is best that a couple does not
stay away from each other for more that two years. They should settle down
soon. When distance is there for a prolonged time then certain inevitable
changes come in a relationship which is difficult to handle when once together
again.
Don't let
geographical distance create distance in your relationship. True love is a rare
gift. Maintain it by following these eight points.
