Everyone is dying to know the answer to the question, are soulmates real? Are they real? And how do you know that this person is your soulmate?
But hold up, before we get into the argument of are soulmates real,
what exactly is a soulmate? Well, the New Oxford American states that a
soulmate is “a person ideally suited to another as a close friend or
romantic partner.” Sounds pretty simple, however, I don’t think so. It’s
a little more complex than that.
Soulmates are not just someone that suits us, soulmates are
associated with having a deeper connection to one another, a connection
that cannot be replicated. It’s that person, the one that clicks, you’ve heard about “the click.” Well, that’s a soulmate.
Are soulmates real?
So now that you know what a soulmate is, what’s the big debate? Well, does it even exist?
This is a pretty big debate, the question of whether soulmates are
real or not. Some scientists say that it’s impossible, with the help of
mathematical equations, to have a soulmate. In addition, others argue
that you shouldn’t even think about soulmates since you then eliminate
other eligible partners because you’re looking for “the one.” I’m not
saying I agree, but they have a valid point.
On the other hand, scientists believe soulmates are probable, but not
in the way we think of them. You don’t need an immediate click with
someone, rather, soulmates result from a deep love that develops over
time.
Who’s right? No one really knows. However, if you’re wondering
whether your partner is your “soulmate,” there are some good signs which
show that you and your partner are a perfect match.
#1 You speak without words. Okay, I know, that
sounds a little New Age, a little hippy, but it’s true. You don’t have
to constantly talk like you would with people that you just met. Share
that comfortable silence without any awkward feelings. When you talk,
you finish each other’s sentences without even blinking. You connect on a
mental level unlike other people.
#2 You feel it. You feel it deep down in your gut
when you know someone is for you. When I go on dates with guys, I know
within five minutes if this guy is for me or not. Of course, sometimes
they surprise me. However, usually I’m right. It’s not really
explainable, the feeling, you just know that this person is or is not
for you.
#3 You two made chemistry. The chemistry you have
for each other is intense. Sure, you’ve felt things for other people but
this is on a whole other level. Though your sexual chemistry is high,
it’s more than just having sex, there’s passion and love with each
touch.
#4 There’s a challenge. You challenge each other and
push each other in a positive way. There’s a sense of teamwork shared
between you two and neither feels as though they’re forgotten. You both
want to evolve and grow with each other, supporting what you both do.
This isn’t just being soulmates, this is a partnership.
#5 It just flows. You’re not worried about saying
something offensive to them or doing something that would make you look
weird. You don’t care. You feel completely comfortable around them from
the first day. You feel free to say what you want and it’s almost like
you’ve known each other for years.
#6 You’re both flawed and you know it. Yes, you’re
flawed, they’re flawed and you both know it. This isn’t about finding
someone who’s in a perfect package, smiling all the time and doing
everything exactly right. That’s not what a soulmate is, that’s a doll.
You both see each other’s flaws but accept them and embrace them in
the relationship. A soulmate is about having the perfect relationship,
it’s about going through the ups and downs together.
#7 They make you feel calm. And you make them feel
calm. You shouldn’t feel stressed out when you’re around them, that’s
not a partnership. You want to feel safe and relaxed in your soul, as
though everything is where it should be. If you’re on pins and needles
the entire time you’re around them, that isn’t a soulmate.
#8 You both agree on the important things. Okay, he
leaves the toilet seat up and it drives you crazy. You always chew with
your mouth open, yes, these things are annoying but they’re not crucial
for the relationship. You both agree on the fundamentals of your
relationship. What you value in life is what your partner values, you
see the world through the same scope.
#9 You can be honest with them. You want to be able
to tell your partner how you really feel. With a soulmate, you should be
able to tell your partner everything that’s on your mind. If you’re
feeling judged for thinking or believing a certain thing, that’s not a
partnership. A soulmate, though, may not agree with you, will let you
say what you say without judgment.
#10 Your soulmate may not end up in a romantic form. You
may have found your soulmate, however, there isn’t any sexual chemistry
between you. Of course, you mentally and emotionally connect, and you
may have even tried to have a sexual relationship with this person but
it may not work out. That doesn’t mean you didn’t find your soulmate.
You did, it’s just that romantic aspect isn’t there.
#11 It may not be an immediate falling in love. I
know people that married friends that they’ve known for ten years. One
day, they just looked at each other and realized that their soulmate was
in front of them the whole time. You may be thinking that your soulmate
is someone you’ll meet at a party or library, but really, it could even
be your neighbor across the hall or your best friend.
So, are soulmates real? Think about your relationship and try to see if you match up with these signs.
