Out of all the different ways you can feel connected to someone, an emotional connection is by far the most crucial to have. Here’s why.
You may be thinking I’m crazy by pointing out something so obvious.
Of course an emotional connection is important. It’s supposed to be
obvious! But you’d be surprised how many people don’t truly have an
emotional connection toward their significant other.
They might think they do, but they don’t. The truth is that they
confuse physical attraction with emotional attraction, and then are
surprised when their relationship is lacking the connection. You need
emotional attraction to be strong with someone if you ever hope to have a
successful relationship with them.
Guys take longer to feel an emotional connection
As much as we’d like to believe that men can connect on an emotional
level just as easily as us ladies, it’s just not true. Guys take a
little bit more time to build that deep connection. They need more time
in order to evaluate if you’re someone they can see themselves with long
term.
This is also the reason it may take guys a little bit longer to
commit than girls. If girls like someone and feel a connection, then
we’re ready to be exclusive. Guys need more time to figure that out. And
as long as they don’t have commitment issues, it will happen if they
feel emotionally connected to you.
Emotional connection – Why emotional attraction is the most important kind
Yes, physical attraction is really important in a relationship, but
not even close to as important as emotional attraction. This type of
attraction is even more important than being compatible. You can have
everything in common with someone but have no emotional connection.
Without it, your relationship is bound to fail. That may sound harsh,
but it’s also true. If you want to know what makes you emotionally
attached to someone and why it’s vital to a healthy, long-term
relationship, here’s everything you need to know.
Signs of a real emotional connection
First, you have to know what emotional attraction even is. You may
think you’ve got it figured out, but here are some signs of emotional
attraction you must have for a healthy, working relationship.
#1 A feeling of being understood/understanding them. If
you have a clear sense of who they are, and you understand them when
they’re feeling sad or happy about things, that’s an emotional
connection. You also have to feel as though they understand you and how
you’re feeling.
#2 You can talk about important topics with ease. Some
things are really uncomfortable for couples to talk about if they don’t
have emotional attraction. If you feel like it’s easy to talk about
those difficult things with your partner, that’s emotional attraction.
You’re emotionally connected to them.
#3 You want to hear their opinions on controversial matters. When
you’re actually curious about what they think about certain topics, and
you desire knowing how they feel about them, that’s emotional
attraction.
#4 You admire their intelligence. This is a more
obvious sign of a real connection. However, don’t be fooled into
thinking that you’re connected in this way just because you find their
intelligence to be sexy. That’s not exactly the same thing.
#5 You’re more attracted to their personality than their appearance. However,
the two tend to rely on one another. If you’re really emotionally
attracted to someone, you’ll automatically think they’re physically
attractive. That’s just how psychology works. But if you truly love
their mind more than their body or appearance, it’s emotional
attraction.
#6 It’s easy to listen to them talk. Being
emotionally connected to someone means it’s easy for you to listen and
talk to them, just because you care so much about what they have to say.
You can get into topics and you enjoy listening to what they have to
say. It’s fun for you.
#7 You feel like they listen to you, too. It goes
both ways. If you feel as though they find ease and enjoyment listening
to you talk on and on about things, the emotional attraction is mutual.
Why emotional connection is the most important aspect of love
Now that you’re aware of what real emotional connection is, you
should know why it’s regarded as much more important than any other
aspect of your relationship.
#1 Looks fade. You’ve heard this time and time
again, yet a lot of us still fall for the gorgeous ones over the people
we’d be way more attracted to emotionally. You have to fall in love with
someone emotionally and not just physically, because those physical
attributes aren’t going to stay that good-looking forever.
#2 You have to be able to talk about the important things. If
you don’t have that emotional connection, you’ll never be able to talk
about the things necessary for a relationship to work. You’ll never be
able to understand them or where they’re coming from in order to find a
solution to problems.
#3 You have to live with someone else’s mind forever. Often
times, many things change about a person, even while they’re in a
relationship with someone. Having a strong emotional connection is
important because you’ll have to live with their mind forever. If you’re
not connected emotionally, the relationship can fall apart as the two
of you grow and change.
#4 It helps foster a deeper love. You can’t have
true love based on looks alone. That “love at first sight” just isn’t
real, and it can’t happen. You can care about someone and be concerned
about their well being, but without an emotional connection, you can’t
have a deep, meaningful love.
#5 It keeps the passion alive even while the desire fades. Passion
is crucial for making a relationship last. After the desire to get
naked with someone fades, you have to have something else in place to
keep that passionate side of the relationship relevant. And emotional
attraction is that thing.
#6 It makes you want to solve problems instead of just shove them under the rug. When
you have an emotional connection with someone, you don’t want to walk
away without making sure they’re satisfied and content with the
situation. That means your arguments won’t just get swept under the rug.
You’ll want to sort them out, and that can help save a relationship.
#7 It increases communication. Just like I mentioned
above, having an emotional connection with someone will make you want
to talk to them and discuss issues, and really, just about anything.
That means that you’ll find it easier to communicate, and we all know
how vital communication is to a healthy relationship.
#8 It makes you feel like you’re a part of something. If
all you ever felt for someone was physical attraction, you wouldn’t
really feel like you’re a part of a relationship. You’d just feel like
you had someone to hook up with. Emotional attraction is vital for
creating that feeling of being a part of something bigger. It makes you
feel like you’re part of your significant other’s team.
I think we all wish we had just as much emotional attraction
for someone when we have an overpowering amount of physical attraction
for them. But when push comes to shove, you’ll need that emotional
connection even more.
