Being madly in love is an amazing thing… until it starts negatively impacting the rest of your life. Here’s how to find balance when you can’t focus.
There’s nothing wrong with being madly in love. It’s one of the best
feelings in the world and you should revel in every moment of it.
However, you can’t forget to live the rest of your life. Yes, you want
to get lost in love with your partner but if you don’t pay attention,
you’ll start ruining everything else around you.
And what good is love if the rest of your life sucks? Sure, you’ll
still have a loving partner but even that can get screwed up if you
don’t have a job, friends, or hobbies. You need to keep a well-balanced
life if you truly want to be able to enjoy your love.
Obsessing over your partner will make your relationship worse
In a new relationship when you’ve fallen madly in love, it’s easy to
get lost with them and only want to spend time with them. But that can
actually hurt your relationship and make your love burn out faster than
it even started.
Spending too much time together can make you get sick of them. I know
what you’re thinking, you won’t get sick of them if you’re truly in
love. But you will if you spend every waking hour together. You can also
grow to resent them the more time you spend away from other things you
love.
You’ll spend less time on your hobbies and way more time with them. This will ultimately bring you less
joy, not more. You love the things you do and you love your friends.
Eventually, you’ll start to blame your partner for keeping you from them
and resentment will form – even if you don’t notice it at first.
How to balance your life when you’re madly in love
Knowing how to keep your life balanced when you’ve freshly fallen in
love can be hard. You’re basically blinded by your partner. And while
this might not be a bad thing, slipping up at work and not nurturing
your friendships can be costly. Here’s how you can maintain your life
even after falling for someone.
#1 Spend time apart. Haven’t you ever heard the
saying, “distance makes the heart grow fonder?” It’s not just something
people say to be cute. It’s true. You need to spend time without each
other in order for your relationship to be healthy.
Yes, even people who live together will find time to spend apart. You
need to keep your sanity. It’ll also make you happier when you do get
to see your significant other. You’ll cherish your time more and be able
to enjoy being with them a lot more than if you spend every day
together.
#2 Schedule “you” days. Basically, have a set day
each week where your partner goes somewhere else so you can have a day
just to yourself. The benefit to actually scheduling these days is that
you’ll do them even if you don’t want to.
Believe me, you need those days. Being around your significant other
can be a little exhausting, even if you are madly in love with them.
It’ll be nice to have a day where you can relax and just do things you
enjoy without having to worry about your partner.
#3 Keep in touch with friends every day. Just stay
connected. You don’t have to talk to them about every little thing all
the time but you should make sure to talk to them. Friends can drift
away the less you see them. And if you’re madly in love with someone,
you’ll see your friends less often.
But if you keep in touch and make an effort with them, they’ll
continue inviting you out and making an effort to see you, too. If you
don’t, they’ll likely reach out less and less. And before you know it,
you won’t have friends left.
#4 Make an effort to spend time with friends. At the
same time, you also have to be inviting your friends to do stuff too.
Reach out to them and make sure they know that even though you’re madly
in love, you still have time for them. They should never have to
question if you want to still be friends and see them.
#5 NEVER give up your hobbies. Your hobbies are what
make you, you. They’re the things that bring you joy aside from your
partner. When you can’t do the things you enjoy because of your
significant other, it’ll form a rift in your relationship.
At first, you won’t even notice it. But after a while, you’ll start
growing upset with them without knowing why and it’ll be because you
can’t enjoy your hobbies. So make sure you’re actively working on your
hobbies whenever you get the chance.
#6 Communicate with your partner well. Just make
sure you’re talking. You both need to make sure you tell each other when
you’re upset or need space. Talk to them about missing your friends and
wanting to spend more time with them.
If you’re truly in love, then you both want the other to be happy.
Keeping your line of communication open will certainly help with that.
#7 Plan out your date nights. The best way to spend
time together even amidst your crazy life is to plan out date nights.
And I mean pick a day each week that’s exclusively for date night.
Therefore, you’ll always get a date and you’ll always have time to be
intimate with each other.
This also gives you six other days to plan other things. Sure, you’ll
probably spend more than just that night with your significant other
but it’s important to have the option of making other plans if you want
to keep your life balanced.
#8 Never ignore your other duties. You have a life
to live. Just because you’re madly in love doesn’t mean you can ignore
it. This person is a part of your life now but just a part. Don’t
neglect your other duties and responsibilities because you’re distracted
by their presence. In order to have balance, you need to keep the other
things in your life going strong.
#9 Get into a routine. Having a routine with work,
friends, and your significant other will help you maintain the balance
you need to function happily. You’ll be able to see your friends this
way. You’ll be able to dedicate time for work this way. Your
relationship will not suffer from having a set routine that helps you
keep the balance.
#10 Remember that it’s HEALTHY to keep the balance. If
you’re madly in love, then you’ll want to stay that way, right? If you
don’t keep the balance in your life, your relationship will suffer. Just
remember this and it’ll help you put forth an effort to keep your life
balanced.
Being able to balance your life while being madly in love is
extremely important. All of your relationships will be better off for it
and you’ll still maintain the things you love to do in life.
