The most pressing question that new couples are asking is this: how do you know if it’s love? Here’s how you know if you’re on the right track.
Knowing when you’re in love can be a bit tricky, especially if you
just started dating. Some experts say that, after two months, it’s okay
to finally say those three little words.
But judging from the thousands of testimonies saying that time varies
for each person, it’s safe to say that you don’t have to wait for two
months—or you might have to wait longer than that.
It’s not all that reassuring, but hear us out. No matter how long it
takes for you to fall in love, it is worth more than the waiting time
you invest. Falling in love is the best feeling in the world; that’s why
it’s always best to pace yourself until you find the real thing.
What does it feel like to be in love?
For one thing, it feels awesome. Being in love means that you feel
happier rather than sad and that the source of that happiness mostly
comes from the person you love. There are different ways a person can
feel love, but it usually starts with rollercoasters in your chest or
stomach. It’s a physical reaction that tells you that you feel strongly
about someone.
It could be infatuation, but that’s how love usually starts. Still,
it’s your job to keep it alive…until the day comes when you’re finally
sure that it is, indeed, real love.
Aside from that, you can also feel that you’re falling in love
gradually. It isn’t as strong as a sudden jolt to your system, but a
slowly-increasing level of intimacy will lead you to the same path.
You can’t control which category you fall into, or whether or not
your partner will feel the same way. All you can do is sit tight and
wait for those fuzzy feeling to overwhelm you—in a good way.
How do you know if you’re in love?
#1 Saying “I love you” without hesitating. We live
in an age where words have become just as powerful as actions. Even
emojis have weight now, but the most hard-pressed words to say are “I”,
“love,” and “you.” If you can say it without choking or without any
remorse, then it’s safe to say that you’re confident about how you feel.
#2 You put them first, but only if they do the same. When
you’re in love, you give more than you are willing to take. But the
same goes for the person you’re in love with. Once you realize that
you’re putting their needs above yours, you, my friend, are a strong
candidate for love.
#3 What’s important to them is important to you. One
of the most important signs to watch out for is your newfound ability
to actually care about the things that are important to your partner.
Rarely do we see people who are passionate about someone else’s
interests, but with love, it’s a package deal. If you love what they
love, then you probably love them too.
#4 You don’t care about their flaws. Dating is the
time where everything starts to slowly bubble up to the surface, like
your flaws. Some flaws are inexcusable—being abusive, being resentful,
being deceitful, etc—but some, like physical flaws and annoying habits,
can be overlooked. If you start to see a person for who they are and not
what they lack, it’s probably true that you’ve fallen for them.
#5 You can trust them. Trust is very hard to come
by, but it’s easy to see once a person has proven themselves to you.
There’s no need to test them or make them jump through hoops. All you
need to do is appreciate the effort they’re making, and decide whether
or not it’s enough for you to trust them.
#6 You’re inspired, not controlled, by your partner. Being
in love helps you become a better person. You’re more motivated, not
because you want to be great in your partner’s eyes, but because you are
happy. People are inspired when they’re happy. And when you’re happily
in love, things will simply fall into place.
#7 The doubts you have don’t feel that strong anymore. Of
course, we all have our doubts and fears when starting a relationship,
but there will come a time when all of those will disappear without you
noticing. Once you’re sure of where you stand, you can finally rest
knowing that it’s real.
#8 You don’t feel attracted to anyone else at all. Note
that this is different from appreciating other people. Not being
attracted to anyone else means that you don’t want to entertain or date
other people. Everyone else pales in comparison to the one who holds
your heart. That’s because now you want one person, and one person only.
#9 They’re included in your plans for the future. We’re
talking about plans, not fantasies. Imagining your wedding doesn’t
count. Planning how you’ll move in together doesn’t count either. We’re
talking about including a person you love in your plans for the future.
Do you see them with you in five years? Yes or no? Do you want them to
stay with you for a long time? Yes or no? No daydreams. No fantasies.
Just facts.
#10 Your love for them is unfolding before your very eyes. Love
comes at you out of nowhere, but you’ll soon realize that there were
more than enough signs that it was coming your way. It could be the
moment you saw your partner’s smile, or the way you felt when they first
held your hand. And no, those weren’t signs that you’d fallen in love.
Those were the signs that led you to fall in love.
If you think that you’re finally falling for the person you
like, these signs may be the only thing left to help you confirm whether
it’s true or not. If it hasn’t happened yet, rest assured: with these
signs, you’ll know it when it comes.
