There is a term called frenemies that is used for people who behave with their friends like any friend would and at other times like any enemy would. Their friendship is not a healthy one and reeks of jealousy. To make sure you or any of your friends is a frenemy or not, have a look at these pointers.
1.You feel uneasy on knowing about his success
Although you should feel happy about your friend’s success, you somehow feel uneasy and dissatisfied with your own life, with which you were fine with until now. His success makes you slightly irked and you wish to have the same, or better successes.
2.You subconsciously compete about everything
Be it girlfriends, jobs, finances, family life, travels, adventures or experiences, you have subconsciously been competing with your friend ever since you knew him. You just have to have the better deal as compared to your pal in just about everything.
3.You feel the yearn to do better anyhow
Although you are fine with the pace of things moving in your life, you yearn to be one step ahead of your friend by hook or by crook. You have to be better than him in most, and if possible, all aspects.
4.You gloat a little on knowing about his failure
News about your friend’s failure in something gives you a little joy. It makes you feel like you have the upper hand and you are better than him.
5.You wish something to go wrong with his plans
Every time your friend discloses something good he has planned for his life, you secretly wish it doesn’t happen. On the face you may act as if you don’t want him to go abroad for a job as you will miss him, but you know that the reality is something different.
6.You hate people who like him more than they like you
You tend to harbor feelings of hatred or dislike towards those people who seem to like him more than you. They will talk more to him, be closer to him, make him the center of attention and invite him to events more or rather than you, so you feel like they are deliberately doing so, and hence, start to dislike them.
7.You don’t ask questions out of care or concern
Whenever you ask him questions, the care and concern part behind them is less while the inquisitiveness is more. You ask questions to know about what exactly they are doing in life so that you can match the events to those in your own life and see whether they are ahead of you in the rat race or no.
1.You feel uneasy on knowing about his success
Although you should feel happy about your friend’s success, you somehow feel uneasy and dissatisfied with your own life, with which you were fine with until now. His success makes you slightly irked and you wish to have the same, or better successes.
2.You subconsciously compete about everything
Be it girlfriends, jobs, finances, family life, travels, adventures or experiences, you have subconsciously been competing with your friend ever since you knew him. You just have to have the better deal as compared to your pal in just about everything.
3.You feel the yearn to do better anyhow
Although you are fine with the pace of things moving in your life, you yearn to be one step ahead of your friend by hook or by crook. You have to be better than him in most, and if possible, all aspects.
4.You gloat a little on knowing about his failure
News about your friend’s failure in something gives you a little joy. It makes you feel like you have the upper hand and you are better than him.
5.You wish something to go wrong with his plans
Every time your friend discloses something good he has planned for his life, you secretly wish it doesn’t happen. On the face you may act as if you don’t want him to go abroad for a job as you will miss him, but you know that the reality is something different.
6.You hate people who like him more than they like you
You tend to harbor feelings of hatred or dislike towards those people who seem to like him more than you. They will talk more to him, be closer to him, make him the center of attention and invite him to events more or rather than you, so you feel like they are deliberately doing so, and hence, start to dislike them.
7.You don’t ask questions out of care or concern
Whenever you ask him questions, the care and concern part behind them is less while the inquisitiveness is more. You ask questions to know about what exactly they are doing in life so that you can match the events to those in your own life and see whether they are ahead of you in the rat race or no.
