Have you been dumped by your boyfriend or your girlfriend
lately? And going through enormous amount of pain. Well then , if you love him
dearly and want to ignite the love that you once shared , you have to be wise,
think carefully and don't be in a hurry to make decisions.
To begin you have to first sit by yourself in a corner of
the room and think carefully as to how you are going to exercise this plan to
get back your lost love. There are times when you feel the need of that special
soul mate in your life and many believe that the right approach is to have the
presence of the parted beloved again in your arms.
When you are hurt your mind doesn't work at all . It might
seem that what you do is the right thing at that moment but thus these actions
leads to things that you do which might drive your ex further away from you.
Here are a list of things that you should NOT do:-
1.Telling them that you love him or her over and over again.
2.Apologizing to them that things will change in the future and it will be
different.
3.Using some kind of force or blackmailing them to return to the relationship.
4.Acting depressed so that will feel sorry for you and come back
5.Giving your ex an assurance that you are not the same and that you have
changed in to a better person.
6.Trying to argue about why they should give the relationship another chance.
Trying for a second chance is worth the shot provided that
you are confident you want to stay in the relationship again. It sure isn't an
easy task so before you do any further damage and make the situation worse,
focus on these steps that are here below :-
1.Like I had said earlier , for this kind of situation you have to sit by
yourself in a room and think about what you are going to do in the next step.
The first thing that you should do is to stop thinking negatively and all the
drama and mixed emotions should be in the waste basket so that you can think
clearly.
2.Allow some time for yourself and recover from the initial shock that you have
been dumped. This time you can use for some relaxation and reflection so that
you can prepare yourself for the coming days when you have to face the world.
3.You should understand that you are unstable during this period and it will be
hard for you to present yourself in a calm and composed manner. Don't give in
to temptation of contacting your ex . Give each other some space till this
situation cools down .
4.When it comes to expressing and talking to your ex about what happened , all
that you can think of is words like 'I'm sorry' and ' I love you' . These words
may be indeed true but you should know that they will not get your ex back. You
need to build on something that is strong.
5. Prepare yourself to change for the betterment of the relationship and after
you have done that , prove it to him or her. Never give them an assurance that
you are going to change unless you show it for real.
Keep in mind that you are trying to draw your ex lover's
curiosity, attraction and passion. These emotions are very strong and it will
help overcome anything that has happened in the past.
Reflect deeply as to how you can once again feel the
attraction that brought you together in the first place and it will surely help
you win your love back.
The most important thing to remember is to never be over
confident in trying to win your ex's heart once again. After you have ,then
praise yourself!
