Break up is a mishap in one's life and is the saddest thing
to happen to a relationship. When two people come into a relationship of love,
it's pure and unconditional, they part because they cannot come in terms with
each others conditions. At a time when trust, believe and support fades away,
break up seems to be inevitable. But this in no way means that you cannot or
will never get into another relationship.
Relationship after a break up is commonly avoided for
societal norms and is thought to be an incident which should not happen. The
truth is that love does not have conditions. When two alike hearts meet and
fall in love there is no harm. Relationship after break up in it's early stages
does go through a lot of trouble for certain reasons. This is the time which
judges your expertise in maintaining a relationship.
Here are some mistakes we make
when in relationship after a break up -
1.Comparison
Comparison between the good and the
bad is a human tendency and when in a second relationship, it becomes
inevitable. This comparison can cause problem in future. Constant comparison
will put him on guard and thus, disturb his own way of being. Remember, your new
relationship is your new path of life. It's never possible to forget the past
but you can hide it behind all the happiness you get from your present
relationship.
2.Over Possessiveness
As you have has hard luck in your
previous relationship, it's a natural tendency to be over-guarded about the new
relationship. This brings in possessiveness in relationship after break up.
Possessiveness has never been good in a relationship and thus, to maintain your
love life avoid the evil.
4.High Expectations
You want everything which you missed
in your earlier relationship. This is not possible. Every person is different
and they have their own way of handing a relationship. If always possible that
you don't come to terms with a decision. There is no reason of taking it as a
negative point. Expectations are bound to be there but they need to be
reasonable.
5.Brooding Over The Past
Your brooding over the past will
make him loose interest. It will always remind him of being the second person
in your life. This feeling is not good to maintain a relationship. Thus, get
out of the past and it should stop bothering you by now.
You are lucky to be in a relationship after break up.
Maintain it and make it successful. Love is beautiful only if you keep it the
way you got it.
