It’s very important that you and your guy have a friendship, separate from your romantic relationship. I know this might sound crazy, but knowing your partner on this different level will give you great insight into what type of person they are and what type of values they have.
Every relationship goes through its ups and downs, that’s just life. But when your relationship hits that down slope a little sooner than expected, you many start to panic. Don’t. There are some simple ways to avoid letting the end of the so-called “honeymoon phase” get the best of you and your relationship.
Keep It Exciting
It’s very important that spontaneity remain a part of your relationship. Even if you and your man aren’t the biggest daredevils, keeping it exciting is a huge part of maintaining a certain level of thrill, which no doubt also keeps things interesting. Don’t do the same things every single day and don’t go on the same type of dates...it gets boring. For example, if you two are movie lovers and every weekend you find yourself cuddled up in the local theater, mix it up a bit and research the nearest drive-in movie theater. You’re still doing what you like, but investing the time to make it more interesting. And when it comes to the bedroom, use the same theory. If you’re always doing it one way (or even two for that matter), shock him by incorporating a completely different position that you two have never tried before. I guarantee you he won’t complain. ;)
Avoid The Fishbowl
When you’re in a relationship, there are typically just two people that should be concerned with what is going on within that relationship: you and your partner. Unfortunately, this is usually not the case and you have a ton of other people that seem to be interested in what you and your man are doing. Surprisingly a lot of people want to see how long you’re going to last and whether they even know it or not, are part of the reason your relationship is put under major stress. Try not to pay attention to this scrutiny, the outside factors and what other people have to say as it can cause a rift between you and your man. Everyone has an opinion and will always have something to say about your relationship, good or bad. It’s up to you to learn to brush off the things that don’t matter. When others start to scrutinize your relationship, take it as a sign you’re doing something right. They want to know the secret to your happiness…take it as a compliment.
Don’t Bring Stress Home
Stress has been known to end relationships very quickly. It may not even be your relationship that’s stressful, but outside factors that contribute to your overall stress level can penetrate your home life and that never ends well. If your job is stressing you out either because you’re overworked, underpaid, or both, leave that at the office. I know that it’s hard to separate your work and home life, but when you man asks you how your day was, briefly touch on it, but don’t get into a ranting session and then slip right back into the bad mood you were in at the office. It also places the stress you’re carrying on your man and then he gets worried about you as well. It’s a cycle of stress that you want to avoid at all costs. If money is stressing you both out, don’t argue about it. Instead work to find a solution, second jobs for anyone? Figuring out what you can sell? Believe me; letting stress take over your home life is not worth it.
Me Time
Make sure you are taking time out for yourself. Just you and no one else. Most of the time we hear of people going on fancy spa days to get the perfect “me time” but spending a ton of money isn’t the only way to do this. You can simply go take a walk in the local park to be alone with your thoughts, go have lunch by yourself, or even grab a good book and cuddle up on your couch. If whatever you’re doing in that particular moment is what YOU want to do, it’s considered “me time.” So make it a point to carve out this special time for yourself as it will help to rejuvenate you and keep things fresh between you and your man.
Friends First
It’s very important that you and your guy have a friendship, separate from your romantic relationship. I know this might sound crazy, but knowing your partner on this different level will really give you some great insight into what type of person they are and what type of values they have. This way, when the spark seems to have fizzled in your romantic relationship, you can pull from things you know about your “friend” to light it back up again. Knowing who you’re dealing with on a number of different levels is so important for someone you’re trying to stick it out with for the long haul.
The “honeymoon phase” doesn’t have to be something that impacts your relationship. Whether you’re a new couple or a newly married couple, you can use the above tips to help avoid hitting that mark and maintaining a fun, interesting and intriguing relationship with your man.
