We have all heard stories about first love and the first time
experience of falling head over heels for someone etc but what about second
love. The second time you find love after your first break up. A second
relationship after learning from previous mistakes. A second hope of finally
finding true love.
As first love has an unmatched charm, the first break up leaves
the person with wounds. Wounds which only love and mend again and thus, most of
the time though we swear to never fall on love again, we find ourself searching
for the right person until we find one. With all the hope and wish but what if
the second love too may not work out. My friend whom I have seen suffering her
first break up and then falling in love again, was very upset yesterday night,
as she could feel that her second relationship was also at stake for certain
situations. She then asked me 'why don't we learn? Why do we find second love?'
This is what I told her -
1.Law Of Attraction
The universal truth is that there is
always a factor of attraction between a boy and a girl. That's why it is often
said that a girl and boy can never remain friends, they tend to fall in love.
Thus, during a break up, when you get support from the opposite sex who happens
to be your friend, finally concludes to be the second love.
2.Expectations Met
The basis of every break up is
unfulfilled expectations. When we don't get something from someone we expected
it most from, we move away and at that time when another person fulfills all
the expectations without even having to ask him/her, one cannot help but fall
in love.
3.Emotional Support
A break up has an inverse effect on our
emotions and more than the feeling of loosing someone, it's the fear of being
alone once again, hurts the most. The position of a lover is of great
importance in everyone's life and to find that place suddenly empty, is
painful. Thus, to fill up the gap, to maintain the emotional support, we tend
to find love again.
4.Was A Friend, Now A Lover
Most of the time if you notice, the
second person in your life is mostly the best friend. Believe it or not, he/she
becomes our love as it's the safest option. We know him, we can trust him, the
risk of getting hurt again is less and thus, he is the best choice.
5.Expectation Of A Better Future
No matter how much fun we make of Karan
Johar romantic dreamland movies, deep in our heart that is exactly what we
wish. A perfect lover and specially after a break up, the needs becomes a
necessity. With the perfect person standing right next to us, expectation of a
better future gets us involve into second love.
To fall in love for the second time for these five reasons most
likely may or may not end up being successful. So, the next time you are on the
verge of falling in love for the second time, check yourself for these five
factors.
