Stella always had a problem when it came to her boyfriend. Scared
of what he might do to her when she went out with friends, 23-year-old Stella
would think a million times to let her boyfriend know about her whereabouts.
There were times when her boyfriend would literally lock her in the house
keeping her away from her friends fearing that he will lose her one day to
another man.
But, it so happened that he did loose her. Stella found a way out
of this relationship and today she is happy to be single waiting patiently if
ever the man of her dreams would knock on the door of her heart.
Here are some life saving ways to help you realize if you are a
victim in a controlling relationship.
1.Trust
There will be times when you see him
looking at you in a particular way, trying to figure out if you are telling him
the truth. Some men who do not understand their partners go through the feeling
of in security where they actually end up in domestic violence in order to make
sure that the girl is telling the truth.
2.Self Interest
This is one common sign one would see in
a controlling relationship. The man always puts himself before his girlfriend.
When Stella explained to her loved one about her new job, he did not praise her
in any way neither did he encourage or congratulate her. He spoke about his
career and how important it was in the relationship. His money matters and
superiority issues also came up, thus putting Stella down!
3.Craving For Freedom
There is always a sense of wanting
freedom in the relationship. If you are living in a state where your life is
barred, then you are most definitely in a controlling relationship. We live in
a country where one has their own rights and your partner has no upper hand in
suppressing it.
4.Embarrassment
One thing that Stella feared in her
controlling relationship was public embarrassment. There was once a time when
she and her lover, went out for a movie along with friends and watching the
emotional romantic movie, Stella began to cry. Her lover felt embarrassed by this
and began to insult Stella making her cry. Like these cases, there are many
lovers in controlling relationships who embarrass their partner directly or
indirectly.
These are some of the signs one would see in a relationship.
Beware, if you are facing these signs and let go before it is too late.
