Getting rejected by a woman can be one of the most frustrating experiences that we every have to go through, but it doesn’t have to be. And it shouldn’t be. Just like with everything else in life you need to have the right mindset. And no getting wasted isn’t the right mentality.
The Perfect You
I want you to take a second and picture yourself in the perfect situation for picking up women. It’s a few years into the future and you’ve become person that you’ve always aspired to be. You go out to the trendiest night club with a million dollars in your bank account. You have the nicest clothes on, the perfect haircut, jokes almost as good as mine, and the utmost confidence in yourself that you should be able to leave with 99 percent of the women in the place and they’ll be dripping wet in their panties by the time you get to your house (the only other women would be those that are married, pregnant, lesbian etc.). As farfetched as it sounds, with some hark work and a little luck we all have the opportunity to make it happened.
Get over it
But (the dreaded but) we don’t live in a perfect world. We don’t have a million bucks and we’re not going out into the perfect situation every night. But (the good but) what we do have that is the greatest characteristic in the fucking world. It’s what separates us from every other species on the earth – the ability to change; the ability to better ourselves every single day and transform into that person that I described in the preceding paragraph, or at least as close to them as we can get.
The New Mentality
That why when you approach a girl, you need do it with the mentality that you have the ability to get every single girl because you do.
And if the girl rejects you, she’s really just rejecting who you are as a person at that specific moment in time. You probably did something that weirded her out whether it be an inappropriate joke, a timid approach, or you didn’t have enough money for bottle service like the stuck up bitch wanted. But the great thing about it is that whatever it was that you did wrong- YOU CAN CHANGE.
How fucking awesome it that right? And you’re going to change it. If you see that girl in a few years from now I’m sure it will go a lot differently. Shit, you might even want to do better than her.
Just this weekend I went too hard at these two smokeshow blondes with tits the size of my head and they were clearly a little put off. But rather than giving up, I took a step back, enjoyed the rest of the football games with my boys, and after they finished their gay little “girl date” they called me over again. So in some circumstances, the change can take place in a matter of minutes.
Rejection+Learning=Success
While rejection may suck at first (especially after a few pints), I urged you to cage this frustration and use it to make yourself into a better person. Every successful person the world from Bill Gates, to Michael Jordan, to Brad Pitt was rejected a countless number of times. But instead of pouting, getting depressed and giving up, they took a look at what it was that caused the rejection, they learned from it and make sure it never happens again. When I hear a person is getting rejected all the time, it tells me that he’s going to be successful in his future because he’s trying. Successful people thrive on rejection.
You’ll get to a point where you don’t mind making mistakes because you know you’re going to correct whatever it was and learn from it. And eventually, you’re going to turn yourself into a monster. Rejection is a good thing, boys.
When I first sat down to write this article, I thought it would be the easiest thing to explain, but I really had to sit there and think. I want you to know that this is truly how and feel and I hope you can use this approach to make dealing with rejection easier for yourself. Shit, I didn’t even write as many jokes as I typically did because I feel so passionately about the subject.