Life is a painful journey, fraught with unbearable moments.
While some choose to brave the storms with a straight face, others resort to crying, to empty their emotional burdens. While it is admirable to be strong, crying can help in ways one cannot imagine.
Unfair Life
One cannot emphasize on the unfairness of life enough. It inspires us to achieve our goals, pushes us to work hard, and when we’re an inch away from achieving it, it is whisked away in front of our very eyes. The pain of loss is insurmountable and we’re only left with dashed hopes and broken dreams for company. Mankind has been sired with an extensive threshold for pain. It can sustain its life amid the wildest and the most devastating of storms in life and still remain standing. While the devastating events ruin our emotional build-up, holding it all in is not usually the best approach to take to deal with such situations. Sometimes, crying your heart out is a good way to pull yourself together.
Physical Ills of Not Crying
No one is expected to go through life without a single tear. With a crumbling heart, it is extremely difficult to wear a smile on one’s face and pretend that things are alright. Holding on to the pain will only aggravate the emotional fallibility. Studies have shown that men lacking emotional expression, in terms of crisis control, become more susceptible to grave mental disorders. The emotional build-up results in a cantankerous storehouse of feelings that begin to poison emotional and physical health. Men unable to express their grief give way to various stages of clinical depression and suicidal tendencies.
Advantages of Crying
Men have been forced to live in the social construct of being strong in the face of adversity. The men who cry have had their masculinity questioned. People need to realize that there is nothing wrong in expressing grief. Sometimes a good cry gives one the impetus to let go of the pain and move forward with their lives. Crying one’s heart out is the perfect way to attain closure. While it can be difficult to move forward from personal loss, with time, the wounds heal and the tears shed, helping dull the pain. The act of crying is hardly a sign of weakness; on the contrary, it is the sign of being strong for too long. Holding the pain in will only make you crumble faster. Crying it out, instead, will decrease the pain exponentially.
Crying is sometimes the only resort left to try. By crying your heart out, you are making the mental promise to be stronger in future. Thus when emotions well up, let them out, it’ll only help you get over your grief faster.
