How to Have a Long Term Relationship That Lasts

 A long relationship is something many young lovers dream of, but few ever achieve. Find out how to have a long term relationship with these 12 steps.

A long term relationship may seem romantic and inspiring, but is it really easy to achieve?

In the fast paced world that we live in, finding someone who will truly love us back is a miracle.

But then, are long term relationships too much to ask for?

There may be a lot of distractions and new potentials to fall in love with these days.

But if you truly are happy in a relationship with a special someone, you’d involuntarily understand that attractions and desires can crop up all the time, but nothing can ever beat the love and emotional attachment you share with your own lover.

Does it sound too good to be true?

Well, it really doesn’t have to.

How to have a long term relationship

Almost every relationship has the potential to become a long relationship that can fill your life with happiness.

But it takes the unconditional effort of two unique individuals who truly love each other to create a magical fantasy called a happy long term relationship.

Use these twelve steps to create a long term relationship out of your budding romance.

#1 Build your compatibility

Falling in love may seem spontaneous, but as the relationship grows, you’d start to realize that the spontaneous love starts to flicker and transition into a mature love that’s based on understanding and compatibility. Can you really live with each other? You may have different perspectives and interests, but can you find a way to bring them all under one roof and still live happily?

What may now seem like a minor nuisance can eventually turn into something that can end a relationship.

#2 Never let frustrations and hatred build up

Never ever let a mole hill grow into a mountain. If something about your partner or their behavior disturbs you, learn to say it out immediately. Every time you yell at a partner or find yourself getting frustrated, you have to understand that it doesn’t happen all of a sudden.

Frustrations always build up slowly. What starts off as a little nagging thought slowly builds up over time into hatred and anger. But if you let things build up in your head, your partner would never understand the things that really bother you, until the day you burst out in a rage.

Retaliation and ego are the two traits of humans that surface first when someone makes an accusation. Unless you’re looking for an argument, help you partner understand you better by talking about anything that bothers you, even if it seems trivial at first.

#3 Be truthful and frank with each other

If you want to know how to have a long term relationship, you need to learn to be truthful with each other, be it about a nagging irritation, a fancy sexual fetish or a friendly crush on someone else.

When you’re truthful, it’ll help your partner understand you better and know you better as a person. A little white lie is acceptable especially when the truth would hurt your partner. But if it’s something that can affect your relationship, be truthful even if the truth stings. 

#4 Unique strengths that complement each other

As individuals, all of us come with our own strengths and weaknesses. In a potential long term relationship, you need to learn to use your strengths and weaknesses to complement each other and help each other. If you’re an intellectual thinker and your partner’s a smooth talker, don’t get frustrated or egoistic because of the different strengths. Instead, learn to use each other’s strengths to become more efficient.

Codependence is a strength that’s waiting to be harnessed in a long term relationship. Use it, instead of fighting against it and enduring a bad relationship.

#5 Think “we” not “I”

Do you think of your partner each time you’re invited to a party or have to plan an evening? When you’re a couple that’s truly in love with each other, you should think like a couple and keep your partner’s interests in mind just as much as you care about your own interests.

#6 Avoid insecurities

Insecurities crop up when there are doubts. Doubts arise when there are miscommunications and half-truths. Long term relationships are built on truth and trust.

Try to think of your partner as a mortal being, who has feelings and thoughts like anyone else! Most lovers try to imagine their partner to be the perfect character in a fairytale. And when they see a human side in their partner like flirting or getting attracted to someone else, lovers panic.

But really, you do enjoy flirting and you may think someone on the street is gorgeous. Does that mean you’d cheat on your partner? No.

Learn to avoid insecurities by being truthful with each other and helping your partner understand you better.

#7 Trust your instincts

Hunches in a relationship are almost always true. When you think your partner’s bothered or unhappy, big chances are you’re right. If you feel like there’s something wrong in the relationship, there probably is. Trust your instincts and speak to your partner when you feel something in the air. It’ll help create a happier relationship.

#8 Share common values

Experiencing a happy long term relationship takes compatibility, but it also depends a lot on common values, be it spiritual or mental. Infatuation and attraction may bring two dissimilar people together, but first glances and sexual attraction aren’t enough to hold a relationship together.

If you want to have a long term relationship, you need to be willing to compromise and merge your ideas and values together so both of you can look at life with the same perspective and through the same looking glass.

#9 Quality time matters

You may know a lot about each other, but people change all the time. You do and so does your partner. Do you still know your partner well or do you only remember the person you first met? Most lovers take each other for granted, especially when it comes to matters of the mind. Learn to grow together. Exchange ideas and talk about new thoughts.

Spend time together and indulge in activities that can bring both of you together. Sharing hobbies like gardening and chores like cooking can create the perfect atmosphere for new conversations and ideas that can help both of you understand each other better, even if both of you have changed and evolved since the time you first dated. 

#10 Experience a good sex life

One of the drawbacks of long term relationships is the effort it takes to enjoy a pleasurable sex life. But it doesn’t always have to be that way. Try to keep sex exciting and fresh by creating new ways to reignite the passion, even if a few of the thoughts are taboo or frowned upon by many others. After all, if it makes you and your partner happy, why care about what others think?

 

#11 Ask your conscience

This may be the hardest to face, but it’s also the easiest way to create a fulfilling and happy long term relationship. Do you really think you’re doing all it takes to keep your partner happy and your relationship glowing bright?

Ask your own conscience if you’re sincerely making the effort and doing the right thing to bring happiness into your partner’s life? If your conscience thinks you can come up with better ways to please your partner, it’s obvious you aren’t giving it your all. A successful long term relationship involves two lovers who care about each other’s happiness more than their own.

If you can’t put your soulmate’s happiness ahead of yours, are you really in love or are you just wrapped around your own desires? 

#12 Visualize and plan your life together

Can you see your partner in your life five years or even a decade from now? Can you picture your own perfect little happy fantasy where the two of you are together and happy in love? If you can’t dream it, you can’t live it. 

Couples that get to experience a blissful long term relationship know how to dream together and build their future, in their mind and in real life. Take decisions together and plan your life together if you want to enjoy a long relationship.

Dreaming of a life together and working towards it is one of those little fantasies that may just come true!

Knowing how to have a long term relationship may require these twelve steps, but it also requires your effort and your interest in building a long relationship with your partner. Follow these steps and you’ll definitely be on your way to experiencing a beautiful long term relationship.

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18 Tips to Fall in Love Slowly Like You’re in a Fairytale

 Want to know how to fall in love with someone like you’re in a fairytale with no evil stepmothers or bad endings? Read these 18 tips to do just that.

For many people in the world, love is overrated and hyped.

I have many friends who don’t actually believe in love.

They believe that cohabiting or getting married is just a way to find someone who can help you when you need help.

That’s just sad.

How can you ever find true love or experience the bliss of romance if you don’t even believe it exists?

I’ll tell you this.

Love does exist. And it’s a beautiful thing.

Falling in love can feel like a beautiful fairytale if you just know how to experience it.

 

How to fall in love the right way

If you know how to fall in love with someone and enjoy every moment of it, you’ll be able to experience it and cherish it better than many others who think love is just an excuse for sex or a way to lean on someone else.

It doesn’t matter if you’re already in love or falling in love with someone right this moment, just use these 18 tips on how to fall in love like you’re in a fairytale, and guess what, you will fall into a perfect one!

#1 Stretch the wooing period. Both of you may like each other a lot already. But don’t ask each other out too soon. Stretch the wooing for as long as both of you possibly can. The longer you play the chase, the more deeper and truer your love will be. Just enjoy the dating period for a while and both of you will truly value the relationship and the commitment to each other.

#2 Fall in love with each other even before popping the question. As humans, we only enjoy something and value it when we’ve worked hard to achieve it. Even if there’s a lot of love in the air, let the confusion stay for a while. Linger for a few months, maybe even six months before both of you give your relationship a name.

By doing this, you’ll always remember your wooing and pursuing days forever and treasure every step you took before actually committing to each other. And if your partner couldn’t wait even a few months, could they really be satisfied with you for the rest of your life? 

#3 Don’t have sex for as long as you can hold it. Call me old fashioned, but in these days of fast love, all of us are ever ready to take a plunge into sex as soon as we possibly can. It’s not a bad thing, but at times, prolonging it can actually bring both of you closer without the confusion of sex and lust which can create a strong infatuation that can be confused with love.

#4 Go out of your way to please each other. Fairytales have a lot of evil plots. You really don’t need them in your life. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go out of your way to do something special for your lover. At least in the first few months of love, put in your effort and labor of love to prove your love for this special person. 

#5 Always look good on a date. Fairytale romances always look so beautiful. The setting is always perfect. The lovers look pretty and the dates look like, well, fairytales. If you really want to experience falling in love like a fairytale, learn to look good for each other. Awe your date each time with your beauty and grace, and both of you will create a picture perfect romance. 

#6 Don’t spend too much time meeting each other at the beginning. Unless you’re living together already, don’t crowd each other’s spaces. Give space to miss each other and fall more in love all the time. Sometimes, it takes missing each other to fall more in love with each other. You can meet each other every day if you want to, but don’t spend all your free time together. Learn to miss your lover and your love will bloom like never before.

#7 Be the perfect lady and gentleman for each other. Boring lovers say chivalry is dead. But true lovers know it’s actually the only way to show much you care about each other. Treat each other like knights and damsels when you’re with each other. Respect each other and always look for ways to make something easier for each other. 

but don’t be a doormat. As much as falling in love should be about giving in to each other’s wants, it’s not about putting up with each other. Never lose respect for each other and learn to play hard to get when your partner disrespects you or takes you for granted.

#9 Stay in touch. Old fairytales are filled with love letters and thoughtful souvenirs of love. You don’t have to be with each other all the time, but keep each other updated through little texts and happy surprises. Buy little gifts when you go shopping by yourself, or when you see something your partner may like. Take off on weekend getaways or vacations now and then to keep the connection alive. 

#10 Create new experiences all the time. Love is impatient, just like youth. You’d want to experience everything it has to offer immediately. But if you genuinely think you like someone, don’t rush into it. Plan activities with your partner but keep a few experiences in mind for later too. Love, just like everything else in life, has to be fuelled constantly with new experiences.

#11 Make an effort to stay loyal. I admit, it’s not easy to stay loyal when there are so many good looking people and flirty banter all around us. But ask yourself, is a few minutes of orgasms worth breaking the special bond you have with your lover? 

#12 Communicate with each other. Spend a lot of time talking to each other and learn about each other’s wants and desires in all aspects of your lives if you want to fall in love like a fairytale. 

#13 Always end an argument. You don’t have to fear arguments in a relationship. Fairytales have them too. But what matters when you have an argument is the way you end it. Never walk away from an argument and shut the door on your partner. Even if it hurts like crazy, talk about it and always end the argument with a warm hug and a kiss, even if you’re clenching your fists behind your partner’s back.

#14 Don’t ignore sex once you get intimate. Yes, seeing the same bodies are bound to get rather boring after a while. But good sex is very important if you want to keep love alive in your relationship. Look for ways to recreate the passion of first time sex and you’re relationship will be perfect. 

#15 Special gestures. Falling in love is easy when there’s attraction and infatuation in the air. Staying in love needs a few reminders now and then. Don’t overlook the smallest of gestures if you think it’ll bring a smile on your lover’s lips. 

#16 Make long term plans. Talk about your lives together with each other. Make little plans together for the future. Can you imagine waking up every morning with no purpose or direction? Your life would be rather dull and boring, don’t you think? If you want to fall in love and stay in love, you need to give meaning and a purpose to your relationship by creating little milestones and goals to keep the excitement and passion alive. 

#17 Always look at the bright side. Be happy and cheerful in your everyday lives. People who dwell on sadness and pain have a way of attracting it in their daily lives. If you want your love life to feel like a fairytale, be positive in your thoughts and expectations from the relationship. If you fear your relationship is going downward, in all probability, it will.

#18 Create memories and save them. If you want to know how to fall in love and keep the love alive, never let love get repetitive or stagnant. Don’t ever take each other for granted either. Instead, share new activities together, be it gardening or going on a trek. And always take photographs or make home videos together. Special memories of everyday moments can actually help both of you fall more in love with each other each time you watch those photographs or videos again.

Don’t lose faith in love. Your dreams of perfect love is in your own hands. Understand how to fall in love and stay in love the right way, and your fairytale romance will definitely have a happily ever after.

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How to be Romantic without being Cheesy

Romance doesn’t always have to be cheesy or make you cringe. Find out how to be romantic and loving, without feeling awkward about your behavior.

Romance is a beautiful thing.

When you’re new in love, even the cheesiest of gestures can feel so romantic.

But as the relationship ages, awkwardness starts to set in and the cheesy ‘you-complete-me’ lines start to diminish.

Now that doesn’t mean you love your partner less.

It only means your infatuation has passed over and you’re now back in your senses.

So how can you be romantic and express your feelings without being cheesy to the point where you have to curl your toes inside your shoes as you say something?

Well, there are ways.

If you feel awkward to walk down a street holding a bouquet of flowers or wearing a tee shirt that says “I’m with Stupid!” fret not, because love doesn’t always have to be cheesy or corny.

How to be romantic without being cheesy

To be romantic, you need to understand the essence of romance.

What is romance, and what is being romantic?

To put it simply, being romantic is a way of letting your partner know that you still love them, and letting them know that you depend on them and need them. And finally, being romantic is all about creating memories.

If you can do any of these things in your own way, you’re definitely being romantic no matter what you do.

10 ways to be romantic all the time

To get you started off on the right foot, here are 10 ideas on how to be romantic. Use your own ideas and modify them to fit your needs.

And once you truly understand these 10 romance tips, you’d definitely be a romantic, in your heart and on your sleeve.

#1 The little things you do. Love is in the details, we’ve all heard that but hardly a few of us ever do anything about it. If you want to be romantic, learn to be selfless. Go out of your way to do something special for your sweeter half, if you know that it would bring a pleasant smile on their face. Do something unexpected at times.

If your man’s late for a big meeting, pick out his clothes and place them neatly for him to wear it. If your woman wants to pick up a new book or has to head out late in the evening, start your car and wait for her on the driveway to give her a lift. 

#2 Give your attention. When you’re out with your partner, don’t ignore them, especially when you’re with others. Just because you’re having an interesting conversation with someone else doesn’t mean you should neglect your partner. Instead, involve your partner and make them feel like they’re the center of your world.

#3 Talk about feelings. Yes, this seems rather obvious at first. But how often do you ever come home at the end of a long day, sit close to your partner and talk about your day?

And how often do you ever just spend a lazy Sunday afternoon cozying up and talking about the good old days when you first met, about each other’s likes and dislikes and about how special and important your partner is to you? Signs of affection may mean a lot in love, but staying connected plays an important role too.

#4 Compete with each other. Competition works in two ways. If you let ego get in the way, you’ll hate each other after a friendly fight. But if you respect each other, a bit of fun and games can bring both of you closer together and bring in a lot of laughs too. 

Play games, be it a pillow fight, a board game or a game on the console. Compete with each other, and congratulate each other. There are no losers here. When you’re done playing, both of you will feel happier, more relaxed and cuddly, more in love and a lot more affectionate towards each other.

#5 Take breaks often. If both of you are leading busy lives away from each other, go away on a vacation or a little getaway a few times a year to rekindle the together times and the romance. Even an overnight getaway will do just fine. Take time to isolate yourselves from the world, because it’s the only way to realize how special both of you are to each other.

#6 Create memories. Memories last a lifetime. There’s nothing in the world that can feel more romantic and romance inducing as perfect memories. As time flies, we forget those stolen glances and those special moments that are so full of love. Create memories often, either by snapping away your cherished moments or by videotaping it.

Can you imagine how wonderful it would be to watch a happy anniversary surprise or a funny prank a decade later? Romance doesn’t always have to be about love, at times, happiness can be just as romantic. 

#7 Be nice to each other, especially when both of you are out together. If you’re the guy, be chivalrous. If you’re the girl, compliment your man and make him feel like a protector. When you treat each other with love and respect, you subconsciously feel better about yourself and the relationship. And when someone’s nice to you, you can’t help but be nice back in return. This is the reason why perfect first dates are so romantic.

Go out of your ways to make the other person feel special no matter how long you you’ve been in a relationship with each other. It’ll make every moment feel so much more romantic and beautiful. 

#8 Publicize your love. Love is experienced between two people, but is best experienced when the world knows all about it. As much as love may be a private moment, we’re still humans with the need to feel better about ourselves. Your partner may not care about public shows of affection, but don’t stop indulging in it.

Make proclamations of love in public or surprise your partner by having flowers or gifts delivered to their workplace. It may be embarrassing, but it always feels good to be the lucky one who’s getting showered with attention.

If you don’t like displaying your love in the open, buy little inexpensive gifts for your partner when you go shopping by yourself. It shows that you think about your lover all the time, and it really is a very special and romantic gesture.

#9 Hug your partner. Or kiss them when they least expect it. Have you ever felt an overwhelming rush of affection towards your partner? Don’t stop yourself when you feel love well up inside you. If your lover’s working or cooking, walk up from behind and give them a warm hug and a kiss for no reason at all.

When you hug your lover and rest all your weight on them helplessly, it’ll make your partner either laugh out or feel protective about you. And let’s not forget, it is a really romantic way to say ‘I love you’. 

#10 Humor. Tease each other all the time. Have fun, play little games, and pull each other’s legs and cuddle at the end of it all. The more you laugh and have a good time with each other, the more love and romance you’ll bring into the relationship.

Sometimes, it’s alright to be a child and indulge in silly games with each other. Ever watched a cute couple pillow fight on the telly? You can’t help smiling, can you? Indulge in the same silly things, and you’ll truly know how to be romantic.

If you’re looking for ways on how to be romantic and loving without being cheesy, just use these 10 ideas and create your own magical moments in romance. It’ll definitely bring more love and romance into your lives.

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How to be a Happy Couple That’s Envied by All

 Everyone likes happy couples, actually they envy them. So what does it take to be treated like one? Find out how to be a happy couple right here.

Happy couples are the epitome of romance.
Everyone wants to be them, and yet everyone hates them.
Do you want to be a happy couple who look so hot and happy it makes other lesser mortal couples stand away from their own partners in shame?
Well, there are ways.
Firstly, find out how to be happy in a relationship.
If you can’t be happy on the inside, there’s no way you’ll be able to rub any of that happy aura off on other couples.
And once you know how to really be happy, it’s time to share your love with the world, and rub it in.

How to be a happy couple
Letting the world know that you’re a happy couple is a lot like starting your own business.
You may be great at it, but it’s just no darn good unless you blow your own horn. Discreetly, of course!
Use these 12 happy couple tips and let the world know just how happy and sappy both of you actually are.

#1 Work out and walk out together. Working out together is great for many things. Both of you will live longer and look better, a lot better. And the best part, regular workouts will make your skin glow with endorphin radiance.
When both of you walk down the street holding hands, both of you would look like two full grown Jesus babies, what with all that light emanating from both of your faces. If that doesn’t look blissfully happy, what does? 

#2 Get cozy in public. Hold hands all the time and get cozy wherever you can. You’ll annoy other lovers around you. But they’ll still envy you. And you’ll feel happier. Yes, make other couples feel jealous and it’ll make you feel better about your own relationship. Get others talking about how close both of you are even after so many years, and it’ll make both of you feel even more closer.
But don’t go indulging in PDA before step #1. Both of you need to look good first to indulge in jealousy inducing public smooching. If you look like two slobby walruses on the rocks trying to hump each other, that’s never going to be a pretty sight for anyone.

#3 Compliment and thank each other all the time. You know your manners, so use them. Thank and compliment each other all the time, be it while passing the plate at an all-you-can-eat or while trying clothes at a store. Be even more complimentary and thankful when others are within earshot. And be most complimentary and affectionate to each other when there are other friendly couples who don’t know how to treat each other with respect. 
 You’ll feel a lot better about your own relationship. The other couple will squirm their feet and wish they could be as loving as you. And everyone learns a good lesson about manners and courtesy.

#4 Never wash your underwear in public. Don’t argue with your partner in front of others, even if your friends are trying to spark a funny fight between the two of you just to have some fun. Annoying and bitter friends love trying to create problems in a happy couple’s relationship. Don’t fall for their little ploy. Just smile and brush any problem away like nothing can come in between the two of you.

#5 Get cute and angry with each other. If anything bothers you about your partner when you’re out together, let your partner know about it. Smack your partner across their back lightly and get cute and angry, like you’re having fun. Don’t get angry, sad couples do that. Happy couples get cute, have a giggly smirk, and get naughty and angry.
Unhappy couples always have an eye on happy couples and try to find out what really keeps a happy couple happy. So don’t roll your eyes or try to speak in a hushed, sharp whisper when you get angry. Unhappy couples will notice that! 

#6 Have awesome sex. Yeah, sex is always right there at the top for happy couples. Most girls talk about how happy their sex lives are anyways, so let the word slip on how sexy and happy your sex life is. Almost always, there’ll be a few frowns and subdued angry faces around you, especially from the sad, unhappy lovers. And you’ll feel a lot happier about it! 

#7 Greet each other warmly. When you walk into each other at the end of the day, greet each warmly with a happy hello. And if both of you are meeting at a party or restaurant after work, walk really close to each other, stare into each other with an eye brightening, wide radiant smile and let time stop still for a few moments while saying hi to each other. The people around will hate you for being so darn happy and loving all the time.

#8 Don’t speak ill of each other. Do you ever feel like bitching about your partner to your friends? Hmm… are you sure you’re a happy couple? Or are you a poser unhappy couple pretending to be a happy couple?
Happy couples don’t have anything bad to speak about each other. They communicate and are always annoyingly happy. So avoid speaking ill of your partner, especially if it’s something silly and trivial.

#9 Be charming when you’re together. Charm isn’t just a trait that’s used to smooth talk the opposite sex. Charm is something that makes you look sexy and admirable. Behave like perfect hosts or guests when you go out together. Stand together in each other’s arms and awe all other couples with your wit, charm and charisma. You’ll definitely be a happy couple. And yes, all other couples will envy you for it.

#10 Call each other often. Keep your partner in the loop about your life. Avoid lying or sneaking behind your partner’s back. If a friend of yours knows more about your life than your partner, then this friend wouldn’t get envious or jealous. They’d feel superior and make you feel small.

#11 Indulge in romantic gestures. Buy little gifts for each other now and then to keep the romance alive. Indulge in happy gestures and treat each other with a lot of love and respect, no matter where you are. Always remember to give your partner the first preference, be it while listening to opinions while hanging out with friends or while pulling a chair back for the women around.

#12 Don’t brag about each other. Saying “you know… my boyfriend/girlfriend is the best boyfriend/girlfriend in the world” is so corny and wannabe. And when people hear that line, they’d just think you’re a lying braggart.
Happy couples never claim to be happy couples. Unhappy couples use that line to try and convince themselves that they’re in perfect relationship.
Avoid speaking highly of your partner’s romantic capabilities to others. Let others watch and make their own happy assumptions. And as long as you’re using all these tips here, they’d definitely be convinced deep inside that the both of you are the perfect definition of a happy couple. And yeah, they’ll hate you for it.


Sometimes, happiness is best experienced when you innocently rub it in and let others know just how perfect both of you are. Use these 12 tips on how to be a happy couple and both of you will be beaming with happiness all the time!

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